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I'm curious if anyone has plans for Valentine's Day. Do you plan to do something special this year for it or not?

I have a private yoga + meditation client coming to see me on Friday and she may bring her husband along. In any case, I think some type of metta meditation would be a nice inclusion to represent what this day symbolizes for a lot of people. Would anyone else have suggestions for a heart-centered yoga and meditation class?

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On 2/16/2020 at 8:16 AM, Paige PIlege said:

I did a type of metta meditation as you suggested and asked Love questions in my group that all participated in.  


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