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I'm David and have just signed up to the Forum so Hello All !!

Been practicing for 10 years or so now, every day, sometimes hour plus sittings. I started due to anxiety and depression I suffered from and whilst it didnt do much for that, I always thought cultivating mindfulness for day to day living would be a very powerful and positive tool for life in general, and I still do.

My anxiety and depression went years ago and I'm a pretty happy, bubbly, confident and motivated person but please give me some advice 🤞!

I'm about to ditch mindfulness formal practice for good as it has never with any significance or consistency crossed over into my daily life. Formal practice is no problem, I enjoy it, but I just don't see any other benefits spill over. I still tend to be on autopilot, still react and not respond, still do things good and bad that I know mindful living would either enhance or reduce.

Have googled a lot, have tried a lot: all the basics, plus many things I have come up with, but can't break through.

I'm in the process of reorganising and developing aspects of my life, to prioritise etc and although it would be hard, sitting for an hour in a formal practice is standing out as a waste of time right now and I'm gonna jack it.

Please help me !!

Thanks 

DJ

 

 

 

 

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Hi David,

Welcome to our community and thank you for your open and honest sharing.

Since you've just arrived here, I'm wondering - is there some part of you that doesn't want to give up mindfulness practice? What support specifically would you like from this community? If there is some part of you that doesn't want to stop meditating, what part of you is that?

I'll start with those questions and we can take it from there 🙂

Wishing you well,

Gillian

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Hi Gillian, thanks for the welcome.

Have been sat here thinking for a good while now how to respond to your questions. They're good questions, and on the face of it, not too difficult to reply to...I thought ha... but realised it would have to be a long and complex set of responses, as I think its a long and complex set of reasons that have led to me being close to giving up mindfulness. Not sure anyone would appreciate a long post from a newbie.

I was in a bit of a quandary when I first posted as I hated the thought of not practicing anymore but have thought about it a lot since, and I'm hoping I have maybe found a way forward to carry on.

I'll get to know the forum a little better, participate if I can, and then, when I'm perhaps a little clearer , ask for the advice and help that I think I am still looking for 🙂

DJ

 

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Your thoughts, questions, and requests for insight are always welcome! I posed the questions because I thought there was something there - something in the tension between wanting to give up the practice and simultaneously not wanting to. 

One thing I'll say is that your practice can shift throughout your life. One hour is indeed a long daily practice, but you can stay true to mindfulness by exploring shorter formal practice and bringing more informal mindfulness into your life. So perhaps there is something in you that is calling you to explore mindfulness in a new way. Just a thought 🙂

Happy to have you here.

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4 minutes ago, Gillian Sanger said:

Your thoughts, questions, and requests for insight are always welcome! I posed the questions because I thought there was something there - something in the tension between wanting to give up the practice and simultaneously not wanting to. 

One thing I'll say is that your practice can shift throughout your life. One hour is indeed a long daily practice, but you can stay true to mindfulness by exploring shorter formal practice and bringing more informal mindfulness into your life. So perhaps there is something in you that is calling you to explore mindfulness in a new way. Just a thought 🙂

Happy to have you here.

Thanks Gillian,  appreciate your response, its very helpful and your last sentence is kind of the conclusion I came to after my initial post. 

I said above that I believe mindfulness has the potential to be an extremely powerful tool.... beneficial to all aspects of our day to day living and I wouldn't want throw that away, I also think I have the experience now to effectively implement your comments above - I'll start working on it straight away I think 🙂

Thanks

David

 

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