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5 Minutes Before A Charged Discussion

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I had a 5-minute breathing meditation on an iPod I carried in my shoulder briefcase last week.  I took the time to listen and meditate before a charged conversation with someone.  I chose a quiet spot inside a building with a window which looked out onto a sunny harbor.  That view alone "set the stage."  Then, basking in the warmth of the sun and listening, I let my concerns about the upcoming talk dissolve.  After the meditation ended, I simply sat and watched seagulls soaring above the building outside.  The combination of guided meditation, sunshine, and peaceful view were very helpful in being able to engage the conversation which followed shortly thereafter with grace, patience, and appropriate assertiveness.  The "fears" I carried about "what might happen" never manifested.  Instead, I was heard and a healing connection was formed.  I am so relieved and grateful!  A think a key lesson in this is to not delay meditation when things feel charged.  I had carried the stress of the event up until the hour before, when I could have chosen to meditate the moment things felt dicey -- which was an entire week before!  Lesson learned.  Tempus

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@Tempus Wow! What a beautiful sharing. Congrats on this mindful moment. Charged conversations are so easy to get caught up in, so it's really a great step when we are able to practice presence during them.

I also really like your phrase 'appropriate assertiveness'. I think this is so crucial in setting boundaries/expressing needs while still maintaining compassion.

Thank you for this share!

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Yes, how wonderful of you to share.  I also learned this the hard way.  Having an autistic child thought pretty much kept this in check for everything.  Still something that you never forget and the more you do it the easier and more natural it is.  Just learning this coping tool took me forever and for a loop at first.  Growing up, I had no clue.      as you said  "appropriate".

 

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On 11/20/2019 at 9:17 PM, Paige PIlege said:

Still something that you never forget and the more you do it the easier and more natural it is. 

So true. As we practice new ways of being, they slowly reprogram themselves into our behaviours.

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