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  1. Jo L


    Hi Leanne, The most comprehensive book about childhood trauma repercussions and treatment is “The Body Keeps The Score” by Bessel van der Kolk. There are some great online resources: https://www.childtrauma.org https://www.childmind.org https://www.crisisprevention.org https://www.nctsn.org (national childhood traumatic stress network) These websites have a lot of resources and information.
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    Hi Leanne, I'm a psychologist so very familiar with the exciting world of child psychology. I recommend the book "The Psychology of the Child" by Jean Piaget, which is a classic. It's not necessarily 'fun' to read and is pretty dense, but is full of fascinating information about child development; intellectual, emotional, and social aspects of child development. There's also "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen...And Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, which is a practical and helpful book. If you're looking for books about childhood mental illness, there's "Disorders of Childhood: Development and Psychopathology' by Robin Hornik Parritz or "Case Studies in Child and Adolescent Psychopathology" by DeDe Wohlfarth. Also, a helpful book is "Creative Interventions for Troubled Children and Youth" by Liana Lowenstein and a really comprehensive book about how trauma affects kids and people at any age called "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk.
  3. Hello Franca! Welcome! Thanks for the resource on raja yoga. I have some experience there but great to have more information. How are you going about getting into Corporate Mindfulness if I may ask?
  4. Hi Karen, Welcome! What a cool job and fun course to create! I'm a psychologist, life and wellness coach, meditation and yoga teacher. I'm wondering if you are looking for specific ideas or resources?
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    I'm with Gillian, sorry you had a tough night. I have an idea (everyone try this!) Close your eyes (not until after you read this Wrap your arms around yourself and give yourself a hug. Say to yourself slowly (silently or outloud) by name, I love you. I'm here for you. I'm listening. I see you. ( Repeat as many times as you want)
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    I love how you use the birds Faune- they sing so beautifully, sometimes I think they are here for us to remind us how to feel joy! Beautiful picture! Love it
  7. Love that you're journaling- it's amazing what you can learn about yourself by writing. I'm actually doing my yoga training through an online program. Which is kind of odd, but I have to find people to practice with (maybe on here!) to log practice hours, and I also have to do a Karma project, where I teach somewhere in the community voluntarily. I'm really excited! I'm curious, when you journal, do you have a specific topic or just free-write?
  8. Hello! My favorite mindfulness practice right now is yoga because I'm going through a lot of stress and yoga helps me stay grounded and connect mind/body/spirit. I just signed up to do my 300 hour yoga teacher training so I'm really excited (I did my 200 hour in 2012). Meditation is always helpful too, but lately monkey mind has been really active! Another tool for me is writing, especially poems. I find it very soothing and a good way to express my feelings; sometimes feelings come out that I wan't even aware of.
  9. From what I understand, jails can be holding places for people charged but not yet convicted, as well as those serving time less than a year. Prison is for those with a sentence longer than a year.
  10. Jail is for sentences less than a year. Prison is for sentences a year and a day or longer.
  11. How cool Samira! That's my goal as well.
  12. Thank you for sharing Gillian. Love stories like this. We need to be reminded of the genuine kindness and love we are all made of.
  13. Thank you so much Priyanka for a wonderful practice this morning! I feel refreshed and ready to conquer the day. It was great to see you too Gillian! Priyanka, you mentioned that you have sessions on youtube that are available. How can I access those? Thanks again and have a lovely day!
  14. You are most welcome! I hope you find them useful
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    Faune you are far from a bad human. In a class I'm taking I read an article about Darwin and how he postulated that humans who developed kindness and feelings of protectiveness toward "lower" species such as animals and plants were more highly evolved. He stated that "this virtue [concern for lower animals] one of the noblest with which man is endowed, seems to arise incidentally from our sympathies becoming more tender and more widely diffused, until they extend to all sentient beings." Naturally I thought of you right away. You, my dear, are highly evolved. Humans in general, on the other hand, may have taken a step backwards.
  16. So true. It's our natural state.
  17. Hello DrFiona, First of all, thank you for the amazing work that you do! I admire your courage and persistance and do not blame you for not wanting to get out of bed some days. I know it may not be possible, but if you can possibly take some vacation days it might not be a bad idea to do so. I love your ideas Gillian, I'm going to try those, Thought I'd add some of my own. Things that help me are: 1. Yoga, even if it's simple stretching or yoga nidra, which is basically yoga relaxation. If you google free yoga classes there are some really good ones. You can also get a free 30-day trial of https://www.yogaanytime.com and they have a great variety of classes and teachers, as well as lenghts of classes for you to choose from. 2. Ratio breathing meditation works well for me in kicking in my parasympathetic nervous system, and it keeps me from being distracted since I'm counting the whole time. Start out with inhaling to a count of 4 and exhaling to a count of 4 (using your nostrils). Then inhale to a count of 6 and exhale to a count of 6. While you're doing this, pay attention to the natural pause that occurs at the top and bottom of the breathe. If you can, try to smooth out the pause so it feels like a circular breath. It won't be perfect, but just practice. Finally, inhale to count of 4 and draw out the exhale to count of 6 or 8, whatever feels more comfortable. When you are finished, simply release the breathing pattern and just notice. You'll likely feel a delicious sense of stillness and quiet. 3. Qi gong. Very relaxing and soothing- try https://whitetigerqigong.com they offer some free intro sessions. 4. Tai chi. You can do a free 30-day trial with tons of tai chi workouts at https://thegreatcoursesplus.com I know trials can be dangerous, but I make use of them all the time. I simply write the day to cancel in my calendar and never get charged. Wishing you some well deserved rest and peace
  18. Thanks so much! Looking forward to it!
  19. "Most reliable friend is within myself, that's compassion. And, anyway, cheap. Other, external means, sometimes quite expensive." -Dalai Lamma
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    It does make life a bit harder. Feelings are amplified. It also makes life sweeter because loving animals and beings to that degree is a beautiful thing. I admire you for your actions with animals.
  21. Oh, I forgot. In terms of linking things with nature, I've taken them on nature walks, mindful walks in silence where the instructions are to walk slowly and pay attention to what they see, hear, smell, etc. and then we discuss afterwards. We also have collected items that appeal to them, maybe a rock, leaf, blades of grass, and discussed those. Taking pictures in nature is also appealing and easy to do since almost everyone has their phones with them (older kids, that is). That's just a few ideas. I also do nature visualization meditations.
  22. Hi Karen, How wonderful to be able to work with young children! As a psychologist I have worked with a lot of teenagers. The way I engage with them is often about relating to them by telling a bit about how much I struggled at their age. I don't go into detail, just share that I know how hard it is to be a teen, with all the emotional turmoil, the hormones, the parental b.s., school pressures, peer pressure, etc. Once they know I'm an ally, they begin to open up. I also let them know right away that our conversations are confidential, unless they reveal something that I feel needs to be brought up with their parents, but that I'll only talk to their parents after discussing it with them and deciding together on a strategy. Humor always helps, as well as using games and play (they might resist at first but they actually still have their younger playful nature in them). I also demonstrate my interest in them by asking a lot of questions- not just probing questions about their feelings but questions about what school is like, the latest trends in fashion, social media, and the latest lingo in teen-speak. They usually love to talk about themselves and all things teen-related. When I teach yoga, I make it fun and exciting by emphasizing how powerful they'll feel doing the poses, and how it's kind of like a magical way to transform their body and mind. Same thing with meditation.
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    I think that is a gift and says a lot about your character. It means you are a natural empath and a sensitive, loving soul. You were born caring a lot about people and animals and those who are vulnerable. Feel good about that. We need more people like you Faune- the world would be a more peaceful and loving place!
  24. Dear Jules, I am sending you love and light. I hear you and know what it's like to be feeling that vulnerability and confusion about whether or not to open up about feelings when it feels sort of overwhelming. I find, however, that talking about and expressing myself is actually a relief, like letting air out of a balloon that is going to explode in my chest. When I am depressed, though, it's hard for me to talk because I shut down and simply don't have the energy or motivation to open up. Sometimes I can't even formulate my thoughts. I encourage you to share on this forum if that feels safe, like you just did. I hope you feel proud of yourself for taking that step- that is a demonstration of vulnerability.
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    Thank you Faune. I don't watch movies either- at least any that have any violence in them (which unfortunately rules out most of them)! I sometimes feel like a wimp because even if there is a just fight where actors are punching each other I have to turn away...in one of my trauma trainings the facilitator said that psychologists often develop a hypersensitivity to violence due to the work we do and the reality of the stories we hear. That made sense because I used to be able to watch anything (except horror films). I realized though that there is nothing wrong with being a sensitive soul and not wanting to put ugly pictures in my head. I get to choose what I feed my brain. So if my husband and I are watching something he'll say, "turn away, close your eyes!" if there is anything violent happening. I sometimes tell him to turn off the volume too if the sounds are too dramatic.
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