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  2. Libras have always been my favorite sign I also find that mindfulness meditation brings a great deal of insight we wouldn't otherwise access, and can help us find direction in our lives :)
  3. I really like what you brought up - that balance between BEING and DOING - sometimes the "just be" instruction gets over-emphasized to the deficit of taking action, which isn't the point in my opinion, rather as you said, mindfulness needs to be practiced in such a way that it becomes a powerful tool not just for taking time out of our hectic busyness to pause, and just be with what's arising, which is a HUGE part of it, but also for taking skillful action, gaining clarity, focus, clearing out some of the chaos in the mind so that we have more power to put towards engaging in our lives in productive, meaningful ways. I've seen how mindfulness/meditation can take people to the opposite extreme of running around like a decapitated chicken -- extreme inertia, inactivity, passivity, even sloth! So even with practices meant to bring balance, we must find a balance in how we use them Here's to burning that to-do list, not by avoiding the tasks, but by (mindfully) getting sh*t done!
  4. I love your insights into this Jo! I too find the prompt to locate and name a number of things occurring in the present moment, especially sensations within the body to be super helpful. I do it with myself often, and I'm always surprised how simple yet effective it is for coming back into the body and gaining a stronger sense of solidity. I also really appreciate how you say it's about increasing space between thoughts rather than attempting to distance from thoughts. I like how this emphasizes a slowing down of frantic, high-paced thoughts, (which no one is exempt from) rather than getting rid of them. I sometimes like to say that meditation is really about returning to what's already here, and learning to be with our experience more and more, i.e. re-associating. And that eventually it helps us to find that middle way place between dissociation and drowning in our experience. And of course this increased ability to be with ourselves, rather than cut off or fused with what's arising, is transformative for all of us, not just those who are clinically dissociative! Thanks again for your wisdom!
  5. Hi, Yes! RAIN is a wonderful resource, especially for the current times. Another meditation that I like, which is in a similar vein, is called "Soften, Soothe, and Allow" by Kristin Neff, based on turning towards difficult emotions with in a kind, gentle, compassionate way. It's a great place to start getting a feel for self compassion and cultivating it, and I've found it really helpful in times of overwhelming emotional emergencies - I'm sure everyone knows a little something about those :) https://self-compassion.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/softensootheallow_cleaned.mp3
  6. well said. I'm exploring embodied mindfulness more and more through dance (ecstatic dance, gaga, feldenkrais, improv, etc.!) thank you for your valuable insights, I love reading your responses
  7. I think I mentally go down a rabbithole sometimes with things like witnessing the witnessing and overcomplicating it all. I also find myself thinking about mindfulness and questioning whether I'm being mindful in the moment and then of course that can keep me stuck in my thoughts too. I really resonate with mindfulness not being just internal - being mindful of the outside world, sort of like an outwardly turned mindfulness rather than turning our attention back into ourselves all of the time. I do find when trying to listen mindfully how often I am focused on my own thoughts, and what I want to stay, and there's a fear that if I don't hold what I want to say in mind that I will forget it!
  8. I really love that question - whats true for me now? and then the practice being to honor that and respond from that place. I find that when I don't, it feels like betraying my inner integrity.
  9. "Whether grief is obvious or hidden, the way forward is through. We lean into the pain and allow grief’s wisdom to present itself. Grief is an elemental thing, beyond the control of our intellect and best left to find its course like water down a mountain. If we dam it, it gains energy until it becomes a destructive flood. Best to let it find its way. Opening to our grief opens us to pain. But it also opens us joy by freeing us from the deadening armor that’s accumulated around our hearts. Life’s preciousness emerges and we see the first crocus of spring breaking through the snow. We see the baby born in the maternity ward at the same moment CPR is stopped in the ER. We feel love for the stranger in the very heart-space opened by transformed grief." How to meet broken hearts & longing - a profound dose of wisdom from Jeff Foster
  10. I like Kristin Neff's guided self compassion meditations - try starting with "Soften, Soothe, and Allow" (targeting strong emotions in the body) and let me know it goes for you! https://self-compassion.org/guided-self-compassion-meditations-mp3-2/
  11. I also have a hard time with anxiety in the morning - I think that "intense dread" is an accurate way of describing it. This has led to me going through periods of actually not getting out of bed and falling into a habit of sleeping through the day and even missing commitments. A few things I've had some success with, which I think is helpful to refer to as resources, and building up a "toolbox" of resources to draw from; Doing a few minutes of yoga - doesn't matter if I'm doing the poses correctly, just get the body moving Running in place for even just 30 seconds! Standing and shaking my body to release pent up anxiety stuck in the body My favorite --- Watching a few youtube videos of cute/funny animals which always uplifts me even for a little while - you could pick something that tends to make you laugh or smile and find a video or two to shift your mood enough to push through the anxiety wall - laughter IS the best medicine The way I see it, anxiety is fueled immensely by ruminating and looping thoughts which then becomes a feedback loop from hell! So, we need to build up more and more resources that can cut through rumination, even if momentarily because it gives us both reprieve, hope, and increased confidence that we can navigate it more skillfully through intentional behavior change.
  12. This is a great topic. I'm exploring how mindfulness can help with strengthening personal boundaries both physically/energetically and then with communicating them or acting in accordance with these boundaries (not disrespecting our own boundaries.) Awareness is of course a first step, noticing when our boundaries feel too weak or too strong (which is also an issue!) and what this feels like inside. I often find that I'm aware that my boundaries feel weak or non existent yet feel helpless to change that in the moment. I'm curious how, with mindfulness, we can take the next step to change the felt sense of our boundaries either to firm them up, or loosen them when we are overly guarded to our own detriment. An important part of this is being able to be grounded in one's body and not be overly permeable to someone else's energy to the point that we merge with their experience (enmeshment) and ignore our own. Does anyone have any insights into this?
  13. Thanks for your thoughtful reply! It was really valuable, and I agree completely with your comments about language used and the risk of re-traumatization, and language specifically is something that I'm interested in exploring and coming up with different language that can help with dis-association, dis-connection. I will definitely check out that book you referenced! A few related questions based on my own pitfalls with mindfulness, is about the ways in which mindfulness can cause division for some, both inner and outer - for example if one is watching or observing their thoughts throughout the day, then attention is primarily focused on one's thoughts and inner experience. But what happens when one is for example, in conversation, or wants to actively fully engage in an activity without having an inner witness witnessing thoughts, etc. which seems to be the opposite of flow where we're fully absorbed in the present with no sense of self? (curious about the relationship between flow states and being on "autopilot") How can we, for example, attend to what someone else is saying while also observing our thoughts, speech, etc.? And how can one mitigate the risk of mindfulness leading to excessive self consciousness, where self awareness (a good thing) spills over into watching oneself from the outside, being hyper-conscious of everything we are saying and doing to that point that we are overly attuned to ourselves and not the world around us? How might one alter their approach to mindfulness if this watching of one's inner experience is causing division between them and their surroundings, relationships, etc.? I know that's several questions, but wanted to put them out there and curious what your experience may have revealed about any of this Thanks so much for engaging!!
  14. I wasn't sure which category to post this in, and choose trauma since it relates to disassociation, which I know can be a pitfall of certain mindfulness teachings. I want to bring up the topic of how becoming a "passive observer" of one's life and oneself can lead to constant self-monitoring, disconnection and withdrawl, and the question of how to avoid this, mitigate this? Running a google search will bring up countless accounts of those who have been harmed by mindfulness (in my opinion, by the way mindfulness was presented to them) in serious ways, such as disassociation, depersonalization, excessive self-monitoring, and feeling less engaged in life and more of a bystander watching themselves and life from the sidelines. I really want to address this pitfall of certain mindfulness teachings, of language used, and how it is presented, and I'm hoping to open up a conversation here about this importance and how best to go about it so that mindfulness is less likely to trigger or lead to disassociation/dis-connection, and so that it does what I believe it should, which is to make us more intimate with ourselves (which means relating to our experience, not disconnecting from it) and lead to engaging in the world in a freer way, coming more into direct contact with what IS, and being less separated from the world by over attachment to mental activity, and transforming how relate to our experience of reality by loosening resistance to what IS by cultivating acceptance, grace, befriending, and self-compassion. Here is a quote that I found very relevant: "It is possible for someone who goes overboard with mindfulness to end up becoming isolated from other people because they up being just a passive observer who has totally lost the ability to "lose themselves" in what they are doing." This has been my experience at times and I am passionate about asking the question - how can we teach mindfulness in a way that is less likely to lead to this outcome?
  15. Hi all! I'm tuning in from Tel Aviv and just started the teacher training program. Does anyone here have a website in which they offer mindfulness/meditation workshops/courses, etc. or just dedicated to mindfulness with resources? Would love to get some ideas! Thanks!
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