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  1. Great idea! As a kid, I wanted to be like Indiana Jones. In my 20's, I wanted to be like Yoda. Now I want to be like both.
    7 points
  2. Share a little more about yourself and let us know something that most people don't know about you. For instance... What did your childhood self yearn to be when he/she/they grew up? When was the last time you laughed until you cried? What was your biggest mistake turned lesson? What are you afraid of, big or small? What unique quirks do you have? This list of questions is by no means exhaustive of where this can go. Use your imagination to dig for something wild/surprising/unusual or share something totally 'normal' (whatever normal is) and relatable.
    5 points
  3. Today, is my anniversary. I feel that is a major win. After 20 years we have made it through some challenging times. I believe the good outweighs the bad and love concurs all. I am glad that we were able to stick it out and hold on to one another. Also Today I received notice that I will be graduating on September 25th with my Bachelors in Business Administration. I started working on this degree in 2011 I have had to overcome much adversity to make it to this finish line. This is two major accomplishments. Never let anything stop you from crossing the finish line. No matter how long it takes you can always make it.
    4 points
  4. In this moment. Present, Aware, Resilient. (Above par)
    4 points
  5. Beginning the 100 day challenge is allowing me to slow down. By the end of this life I want to have mastered the art of slow living, taking one day at a time and noticing how everyday brings something new to see, hear, smell, touch.
    4 points
  6. As a child, some of the people I wanted to be like (at various stages) were: Posh Spice, Shania Twain, and Sandra Bullock. Now, the people I admire and whose energy and wisdom I would love to embody include: Mary Oliver and Rupert Spira.
    4 points
  7. A lot of mindfulness-related notions and principles make a lot of sense when we're feeling balanced and, at minimum, 'okay.' But, it can be so hard to embody this knowing when anxiety or fear arises strongly. Does anyone have insights or specific practices that have proven helpful in these instances? I'm often amazed at how simple breath awareness - even for 10 seconds!! - can greatly reduce any feelings of stress and anxiety when it's risen. However, it's sometimes difficult to even remember this simple trick!
    3 points
  8. Now, I realized that I need to maintain work life balance. I am planning accordingly and enjoying life now.
    3 points
  9. Hi Abby, Is Mindful Meditation is for everyone? No, it is for all who want it. Learning the Positive outcomes of it will illustrate over time; it is not a Cure-all either. When appropriate, it could also be utilized as an adjunct to Therapy as well; based on my experience as a former Clinical Therapist. In another post to you I recommended the following link to Tara Brach: https://www.tarabrach.com/guided-meditations/
    3 points
  10. Way to delve in deeper! This is very thought provoking. I suppose the values that drive the pursuit to be of service to others would be: Accountability Prosperity Altruism Goodness Those are just a few core values that would entice me to always be thinking of others.
    3 points
  11. I have mentioned in the past that I was a therapist for children and their parents. As such I kept abreast of the programming for children on television. Mr. Roger's neighborhood was one of those shows. I hope that other responders to Gillian's quote won't take offense if this former therapist says that when Mr. Rogers said " I like you just the way you are!" he spoke to the essence of the quote. He was saying that he loved, valued and affirmed the worth of every being in the context of all that made them up. Our task as adults is to do the same thing to and for ourselves. Continuing to unfurl the growth that keeps bursting forth if we permit it to do so. Daniel A. Detwiler
    3 points
  12. We went out to dinner and just spent time talking. We are taking our oldest to move into College next weekend so we are going to spend time at the lake near Michigan City.
    3 points
  13. I shared this as a gallery image, but I'm sharing it here as well to encourage discussion if anyone wants to comment on it. The quote, which I love very much, is this: “We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.” Anaïs Nin
    3 points
  14. Anxiety is the reason I got into mindfulness. I totally agree. I'll suddenly become aware that I'm not taking full breaths at times. When I get like this, I grab my disc golf bag and hit the course. I work from home, so getting out and away from my desk is paramount to my mental health. I've also gotten back into weightlifting after a 6 month hiatus, which I'll never do again. My stress got so bad a few months ago, that I started having vertigo-like symptoms. I was dizzy anytime I was in an upright position. My hypothalamus was the culpret according to my chiro. He gave me some supplements and that really helped, but getting back into the gym and better eating habits have really helped. But I will say meditation has 10X'd the benefits of all those things. Incredibly powerful.
    3 points
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  17. Would you be happier with more control over what happens in your life or more control over your response to what happens? How could you gain more such control? I was thinking about the same question before. I did asked myself am I be more happier when I can control more things or the thing happens in my life. I know I won't be happier because that mean that I will lose trusting to others and I will become a controller. Being a controller is stressful because it means that I have to handle everything everyone every moment in my life so when thing didn't happen in my expect then I will started getting panic and fear because from my insecurity. I won't be more happier with more control but I will feel more comfortable when thing under my control. I think feel comfortable and security are the things I want to gain when I in controller mood.
    3 points
  18. Today I helped two senior citizens. One I drove to her hair appointment and the other I shopped for groceries. It feels good when you do for others. Carol
    3 points
  19. This week's question asks: What wisdom can you find in the natural world around you? Take a look out your window, or better yet, take a long walk outside. What lessons can you find there? What wisdom wants to be transmitted to you? For this question, it might be easier to consider, "What does this tree what to tell me? What does the wind want to tell me?" Tune into the natural world as you inquire about what wisdom is held there.
    3 points
  20. It went really well and I am excited about the opportunities arising from it! I am going to be partnering with a body positive/inclusive yoga teacher on a workshop of welcome where we will make space for every body and all of that body's experiences with a combination of restorative yoga and trauma sensitive mindfulness meditation. Two other participants have reached out to learn more, one around my work with children and the other for herself and her colleagues. Super exciting for my passion for sharing mindfulness to be generating some enthusiasm! Thanks for the support and checking in! Rachel
    3 points
  21. A bit about me? Great-Grandma - Fairy Garden Caretaker - StarGazer - GhostBuster - Bean Counter - Mystic - Ordained Minister
    3 points
  22. I appreciate your responses Gillian and Rachel. I am continuing to feel relief from the burden of anger. To let it go as both of you have described does something very good for the one who lets it go. Having some understanding that the other was/is wounded is easier with time as my own wounds from those negative encounters yield to healing. Compassion and acceptance are the beautiful qualities that you mention that allow us to move on. It feels enhancing to respond with them rather than anger and hurt. Thanks again.
    3 points
  23. I had a tough experience in the last few years with an autocratic person. I was a leader in a program and that person led another. When my group and I advocated for a change to a topic that involved both groups, that person went wild. That person communicated in a way that was dehumanzing. After my last enconter I was literally in a state of shock.That person organized an attempt to turn a common community against us. It ended in a stalemate. I resigned to recuperate from the withering attacks. Then, a new leader from our group and other new members attempted interaction again. Same wild and savage response. The response was so strong and irrational again,that no one, even in that person's own group stood with them. When savage and wild didn't work anymore that person resigned in fury. That person no longer had any power to use as a weapon. It has taken two years. I now can see how damaged that person must have been as a child. I can see how their power went unchecked life long making it seem like a workable style to them. With use of the loving kindness meditation over months I am just about able to recognize that that person was caught in a web of reactions their whole life. Now, I am able to breathe air and let that person breath too. I feel free to be the person I truly am because I have some idea of how that person became that dictatorial way. My inner peace, even when that person crosses my mind, is intact. I now recognize that being engaged in those memories depletes me. I am letting them go. It has been a long road but if I am not at foregiveness ,at least I am at tolerance. That feels like a victory for understanding. It is the outcome of time,and reflection on what made that person as they are, that got me to peace. Daniel
    3 points
  24. If I don’t feel like meditating, before simply giving in I try to examine what is going on that has given rise to an aversion to meditating. Often that settles me right down, but if it doesn’t the next step for me is evaluating my affordable energy. If my tank is empty, then maybe I need sleep or a refreshing exercise. If I’m too agitated, I do some walking meditation or Tai Chi first. If aversion about something else seems to be the problem, then I meditate but start with practices to generate kindness and compassion. It usually makes being with aversion simply part of being what we are that I can regard with kind acceptance. Sometimes I seek out a rewarding interaction with another person before meditating or resolve to do so later. That seems to help tilt my perspective from being aversive to being more enthusiastically engaging. I really think a big part of developing enthusiasm for formal meditation practice is developing an attitude of friendship toward oneself and others, as challenging as that is for me. But, “challenging” is o.k. too. Boredom used to be an interesting challenge. When I would get bored I learned simply to meditate anyway and do two things—examine boredom and really ground my attention in other sensations of my body. So much would be going on aside from boredom. Boredom off the cushion is harder for me because it seems to come down to things I wish I could change but cannot. I’m a bit of a doom scroller, but I also use the pent-up energy to read and try to better understand things, to better understand how we delude ourselves. LOL, that often leads me right back to the meditation cushion!
    3 points
  25. “What do you do when you don't feel like meditating?” Then I don’t.
    3 points
  26. When I don't feel like meditating.... I pray. Nancy Jane
    3 points
  27. I find little about which to be inspired. Too many “spiritual” people seem to invoke Jesus’ last words, “Forgive them for they know not what they do.” They seem to take righteous satisfaction in the belief that they are maintaining civility and high moral values. Although their message is coupled with wonderful resolves to pursue personal growth and service of others, it sounds like the ultimate confession of helplessness to me. How do we encourage people to “remember” or reckon with what they refuse to acknowledge? On the one hand, that sort of attitude is a perfect expression of pragmatic spiritual practice—applying effort toward wholesome action where such action can be of benefit and not driving ourselves crazy where it cannot. On the other hand, to me, it represents a sort of spiritual bypass to avoid speaking truth about conditions that promote dishonesty and harming that sometimes are a byproduct of implicit biases but oftentimes are simply rationalizations for avarice and callousness. There must be more people courageous enough to speak uncomfortable truths to power and its supporters who unconsciously or expediently want to avoid it and demonize its purveyors. There must be a willingness to endure some hardships as a result. This seems to me the single most important thing to emphasize now and I think Jeff points in the same direction if I understand him correctly. Any additional actions that promote personal growth and help others have multiple rewards and benefits. They help the actor, they help the recipients, and they lend respect and credibility to the speaker. We have no obligation to relieve malefactors of being made to feel uncomfortable about their conduct. To construe “right speech” or civility to require such acquiescence is to mistake them for their near enemies for the sake of avoiding our own fears of rejection and disapproval, of perhaps losing opportunities that we might preserve by being “agreeable.” It serves not only others’ greed and delusion but it serves our own too.
    3 points
  28. Beautiful sentiments and intentions here. Thank you everyone! This year I look forward to: - reconnecting with family and friends - more self-compassion - healing our planet
    3 points
  29. Thank you @Jeff Miller, @Rachel, and @Daniel A. Detwiler for your thoughtful words and reflections. I resonate with much of what has been shared here and I am very grateful for your contributions to this community. It has taken me a few days to get to the computer to share my thoughts. So here are my own answers to this week's questions... 1. One significant lesson I learned in a deeper way this year is that it is much easier to cast judgment than to look at where what we judge exists within us. Despite the former of the two being easier, this is not the path towards peace and contentment. This year has really called me to contemplate how I contribute to the things I dislike and to be more compassionate towards the evolution of others - and towards the my own journey, too. 2. On the morning of the 1st, I completed my journal exercise to set intentions. The energies I feel called to cultivate more abundantly this year are: equanimity, acceptance, and presence. However, something lit up within me when I read 'purpose' in your own reflections @Rachel. I am going to sit with this again and see what new energies come up.
    3 points
  30. Happy and peaceful New Year to all in our wonderful community! I feel there were so many lessons I learned in 2020- it is rather challenging to choose just one to speak to here. I would have to say that this year in its' entirety has taught me that grasping doesn't translate to security or solidity. This applies both relationally and within myself. I have begun to more clearly see that I am not bound by nor to the roles I play (mother, daughter, educator, etc..), so clinging to or using them as a sort of armor doesn't truly serve me on my path. What I hope to cultivate in the coming year has been coming to me in almost a mantra over the last several weeks, and I think it applies to all areas of my life- acceptance, contentment, patience, and purpose. I hope to open my heart and mind to experiences that give me the opportunity to explore them all, to the benefit of many. Be well- Rachel
    3 points
  31. This excerpt from a micro teaching I just fired out summarizes my response to the questions that Gillian asked. - - - The challenge as 2020 passes is to regard it with generous gratitude. It has given humanity the powerful gift of remembering. Remembering is a potentially radical and life-affirming act. Remember or die. The collective human biological organism literally isn’t going to survive, let alone regenerate civilization and the natural world that it depends on for sustenance and survival, if it doesn’t clearly remember what a human being actually is, where it actually exists, how where it exists actually operates and how dependently it exists there. The most important practice for humanity in 2021 and ongoing will be to not look away as fast-moving circumstances shake / wake us up to the naked actuality of our existence in this age of degeneration and uncertainty. To remember, remember, remember, moment-by-moment, and to let the clarity of remembering, no matter how difficult or confusing or anxiety-producing this experience may be, inform and crack open the collective heart like the sun cracks open a buried seed. Forgetting what we are, where we are and how where we are operates is degenerative. Remembering these foundations of healthy perception, kind intention and skillful action is regenerative. This is the way of all flesh here in Earth. - - - 2021 is likely going to be a difficult year. May we all calmly regard it as an opportunity to help others.
    3 points
  32. hello mindfulness exercises community- this afternoon, i was sitting at my kitchen table (aka my desk now), watching the first snow flurries of the season here on the east coast and plugging along through my day. during a break, i glanced at my phone, and noticed i had an audio message from a local, though unknown number. when i listened, a flood of warmth and gratitude washed through me. it was from a mother of a former student...from 20 years ago! her daughter is now 27 and living in paris. her message was one of sheer appreciation- 'i was reflecting on the wonderful teacher and woman you are and how you came into my kiddo's life at just the time you were needed. i know you are creating incredible things and hope that you continue to spread your love, selflessness, and intellect with children both in schools as well as with your own family.' wow! what a rare gift. not a text or an email, but a live, able to be kept recording. i am feeling humbled and beyond grateful. very much in this moment. wanted to share as a reminder that our day to day work, which may seem small at the time, can really leave a lasting impression. magical. best to all- rachel
    3 points
  33. Another beautiful one, this time by David Whyte. https://www.davidwhyte.com/english-poetry#Opening Excerpt from the full piece: "That day I saw beneath dark clouds the passing light over the water and I heard the voice of the world speak out, I knew then, as I had before life is no passing memory of what has been nor the remaining pages in a great book waiting to be read. It is the opening of eyes long closed."
    3 points
  34. Today was my 5th day in a row. First time i do 5 days meditation without stopping. I feel very relax, i csan really remove all tentions in my body but still today it was not an eqsy one for me . I can give kindness to others, i can see their smile and laugh and can wish then happiness, and this give me happiness, But I have hard time to focus on me and give myself love and wish me all those good things. Im not use to that. Im sure its good, but i might need more practive onthis to unlock something. I will keep going .
    2 points
  35. Hello Everyone! My Name is Theresa Clement and I am happy to be joining the group. I live in Virginia and have been here for about 10 years now. Some of the things that I like to do is Meditating, Yoga, Gardening, Cooking, And I have an interest in Nutrition. In fact, I am becoming certified in Nutrition. I also like playing with my bulldogs! They are so much fun!
    2 points
  36. Beautiful reflection Narmadha! So glad you liked this practice. On the topic, I thought I'd share a resource to more loving-kindness exercises: https://mindfulnessexercises.com/the-power-of-loving-kindness-how-to-cultivate-it/
    2 points
  37. Self-compassion is indeed so important, Narmadha. It can be difficult, but we can build our capacity for it. I also love this idea of befriending oneself! Affirmations I sometimes use are: "I'm here for you. I'm listening. I love you."
    2 points
  38. I love this quote and how it fosters self acceptance. I have recently gotten in to shadow work. And I am over the dark side of the moon about it! I am sure I have come across the concept before at some point in my journey, but is resonating with me now. And I am enthralled with the idea, simplicity and brilliance of accepting all of ourselves for who we are, including the so called negative parts. There is honestly no other choice, if we want to be whole. Yet we spend so much of our lives denying and hiding who we don't want to be instead of embracing who we are. I have just began to dive in to this vast ocean of shadows, but I already feel my self acceptance and self love over flowing! It has also helped me to accept and appreciate others in my life for who they are and love them with all of their so called flaws rather than trying to change them. Recognizing my own shadow in the reflection of others allows me to accept, embrace, and appreciate all of us for who we truly are.
    2 points
  39. I want to share an experience I had yesterday. My wife and I like and trust our single female neighbor. We do things like help each other with tasks, work our flower gardens which are adjoining and my wife has taken her for medical procedures. Yesterday, while she and I were both gardening a few feet apart we had a discussion of political ideas. She voted for Trump but did get vaccinated. Now, she is aghast of the unvaccinated saying "well Trump got vaccinated!". I just shared that in my own opinion, much of what he has said is not true. I went on to see that I am a true blue liberal and follow that way of thinking. She replied "to each his own". I agreed. A few minutes later she shared some negative thoughts about Latino immigrants. I calmly said "you don't sound very compassionate." She said "I call it as I see it." We both kept gardening. She asked me if the line of border stones she was putting in looked straight. I invited her further into my yard to get a better view (we don't have fences). She decided to redo her work a bit to make it straighter. I told her her work was turning out really well. She remarked that President Biden will be resigning soon because he is senile. She said she read that on the internet. I said to check her sources as I had not heard that and was pretty sure he would remain in office. We kept gardening. When I finished I wished her a good day and went to a side garden to weed and cut back flowers. She wished my wife a happy birthday. I told her I give my wife her greetings. This was the most honest exchange I have ever had with a person who has followed Trump in the past. We respect and like each other as neighbors. We never quit our joint task of gardening as we talked. She spoke her mind and I spoke mine. I was greatly relieved. She took it in stride and made her own points. For me in this longer relationship of neighbors and fellow gardeners this worked. Neither of us were angry but rather just truthful. This isn't a panacea. However, it was very real and being literally "grounded" in the earth while gardening which my neighbors and I all do, kept us very directly honest but did not hurt our relationship. For me, for us, this worked. Daniel
    2 points
  40. I felt more alive when I got rid of the toxic people in my environment. It’s like waking up after a long sleep, in which my nerves were methodically draining out of me.
    2 points
  41. Hi everyone. I'm Deborah and happy to be here. I'm 52 and have recently started working with a Life and Business Coach with plans to step into who I really am. Meditation will feature largely in my Business Vision moving forward.
    2 points
  42. I try to go for a walk everyday. I look into the sky & watch the clouds go by.sometimes I pretend that I'am sitting on the clouds & they are taking me along the sky for a ride.I know that Iam part of the air I breathe which is part of the clouds & the sky.
    2 points
  43. Hey wonderful people! My life is going out amazing, I've recovered fully from addiction and I became vegan and also I learned how to cook healthy food also I am practicing yoga daily....I can go forever about how blessed I am, But I am not here to share my wins. I want to teach myself to slow down not only mentally but also physically. Even If I am not anxious, I find moving/eating/reading fast tend to send signals to my brain that I am anxious. Looking back I am much slower and calmer than I was before, But I am looking for ways to support my practice since I did notice that when I am behaving slowly it's much easier to be present and to practice loving kindness.
    2 points
  44. I was just invited to lead a short mindful meditation for female identifying people during an event of a women's collaborative in the city where I live. It will be taking place on Zoom as well.
    2 points
  45. To be blunt—do people make money teaching mindfulness and meditation? I teach one college level course and just signed on with a new start-up not making any money yet...it’s hard to justify paying for trainings when I don’t make much money doing this work. At the same time, it’s one of those gifts you just want to give to everyone on the planet
    2 points
  46. I started teaching online in 1996 on AOL. When the WWW appeared I taught in forums. When Facebook appeared, I started teaching there. I have an email list that I teach through. I use Skype. Sometime next year I’ll start using www.learnworlds.com. I’ve never taught face to face and don’t plan to. I currently have around 300 active students.
    2 points
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    A helpful guide for learning and practicing mindfulness meditation.
    2 points

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