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    Thank you, I am glad you appreciated this video. I am participating in Path to Freedom, to bring mindfulness teaching to prisoners. I believe it can make such a difference, and that is has been such a disservice to prisoners that they have not been exposed to rehabilitative programs such as this. I also plan to teach yoga in women's prisons. Best, Jo
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    Great idea, Tribal! We all need self-compassion. Here are some free self-compassion resources here at Mindfulness Exercises: https://mindfulnessexercises.com/free-self-compassion-exercises/ I also appreciate what Kristin Neff states:
  4. 5 points
    I had a 5-minute breathing meditation on an iPod I carried in my shoulder briefcase last week. I took the time to listen and meditate before a charged conversation with someone. I chose a quiet spot inside a building with a window which looked out onto a sunny harbor. That view alone "set the stage." Then, basking in the warmth of the sun and listening, I let my concerns about the upcoming talk dissolve. After the meditation ended, I simply sat and watched seagulls soaring above the building outside. The combination of guided meditation, sunshine, and peaceful view were very helpful in being able to engage the conversation which followed shortly thereafter with grace, patience, and appropriate assertiveness. The "fears" I carried about "what might happen" never manifested. Instead, I was heard and a healing connection was formed. I am so relieved and grateful! A think a key lesson in this is to not delay meditation when things feel charged. I had carried the stress of the event up until the hour before, when I could have chosen to meditate the moment things felt dicey -- which was an entire week before! Lesson learned. Tempus
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    @Jo L - I'm re-sharing the video you posted in a thread because it will probably be easier for people to find here than on your profile page. Thank you so much for sharing this - what a beautiful reminder of our oneness.
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    Does anyone have a favourite mantra they use for meditation? I really love the Om Asatoma mantra - plus this beautiful rendition:
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    INTRODUCE MYSELF Hello, everyone, My name is Mafalda. Corporate Mindfulness & Mindfulness for Inclusion Translator (for the English, French and Spanish languages, with 30 years' experience in multinational environment. In 2008, I fell in love with the mind potential and became a Meditation Facilitator that same year and a Mindfulness Facilitator since 2013 with Adults, Pregnant and Teens. In 2015, I founded and launched bloom Focus on the Good, a program for Corporate Mindfulness (Mondelez Electrolux, McDonald's, NOS, Unilever, Publicis Noesis are some of my clients and in paralell I develop social responsibility activities working with meditation in a seclusion environment (Linhó, Sintra and Tires State Prisons and in mental health with Alzheimer Portugal Caregivers for Alzheimer's Dementia patients in an advanced state. I have training in Meditation (Upaya Center and Budhadharma; Group dynamics in prison settings (Sapana org); Training in MBSR Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction under the method of Prof Mark Williams (Oxford University); Training in support and End of life patients (Breathing Techniques Jivana Yoga); Certified Trainer by IEFP CCP No F 647997 2016 and Humanistic Professional Coach IHCOS® nº 6423 BF 7404 D.
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    I love everything Deva Premal does, but really love this. I love doing mantra meditation. Imagine sitting comfortably in the sun, your whole body warm and relaxed, while listening to this music. Divine.
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    Hi there, My name is Alain Dumonceaux. I and the founder of www.theawakenedman.net. My passion is to help men regain their mojo so they can live happier, richer and fuller lives by living consciously. The mindfulness exercises are excellent. I am excited to learn and practice mindfulness with this group. Thanks for creating such a great space. Alain
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    I am grateful for my amazing wife who gave birth to our beautiful daughter recently.
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    I am strong and will take each hour with acceptance
  13. 4 points
    With 58% of vertebrae species, 80% of freshwater fish, 40% of the global insect population (76% in some regions), and 90% of ocean biomass having extincted just since 1970, ... and with 70-90% of remaining species projected to extinct by the end of this century (at current rate of extinction, not factoring in acceleration), ... and with cognitive ability and average IQ scores plummeting (7 points since 1970) and dementia now the fifth leading cause of human death, ... and with human sperm viability declining 53% since 1970, ... and with climate chaos and a ‘baked in’ 3-5 C temp increase with an exponential increase in catastrophic weather projected this century (which will collapse civilization), ... and with suicide and psychosis rates steadily increasing, ... and as Earth’s geomagnetic poles erratically wander as the strength of the terrestrial electromagnetic field rapidly weakens as an overdue geomagnetic excursion ramps up (a geomagnetic excursion significantly contributed to the extinction of the Neanderthal species 41k years ago). ... and as it becomes increasingly clear that the human species is already in an actual full-blown existential crisis, ... I try to daily remember to get over myself and actively help others here in this age of uncertainty, mass extinction, degeneration and collapse. - - - It isn’t life as usual anymore. It isn’t all about our privileged and endless tsunami of dissatisfaction, constant craving, self-absorbed patterns of thought, addictive emotional reactivity, or our much cherished hallucination of a separately existing invulnerable solid ‘self’. We are short-lived biological organisms, innately embedded in a rapidly unraveling thin fragile layer of life here in an increasingly unstable planet that we are utterly dependent on for the sustenance and survival of the human species, and as Andy Fisher wrote: “As the biosphere crumbles, so do we.” The human species, right now, is crumbling. Modern people have forgotten what we are, where we are and how where we are actually operates, to our great detriment. They have forgotten that there is no solid ground to be found anywhere in all of existence. The practice and experience of mindfulness (or ‘sati’, translated as ‘remembering’ in the ancient mnemotechnical tradition from which it was extracted, relanguaged, renamed and repurposed for modern consumer culture) originally existed for the purpose of reminding the species that the nature of all existence is endless change, uncertainty, dependence and impermanence. Collapse is inevitable and most of humanity, wandering lost, disembodied, and isolated in a ritually fortressed conditioned bubble of storification and self-fascination, has no idea what is flying at us again like a speeding runaway Mack Truck. Remembering that Earth, and the human body, have never been safe places to live is medicine for our very modern madness of self-obsession, amnesia, ignorance and denial. Remembering that our purpose for living is to help each other, and to protect the web of life, provides us with meaning. As it grows darker, remember to be the light.
  14. 4 points
    I have been wandering around the last few years because the first 50 years of my life were done witnessing, making mistakes and learning. Finally, I have reached accomplished. 30 years of journals with struggles and progress now can be put out. With 3 courses and 3 websites, I feel very comfortable with helping others. I use to have this itch. This itch to do something with what I have lived. Not knowing how, when, where and what is a daunting task. FIRST progress is in 2020. Thank you for being here. Projects are completed, now to learn what else to do with it. Very slow going for me. https://soul-fitness-life-alliance.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=1148266 Embrace Your Joy free 4 videos Worksheet bonus https://soul-fitness-life-alliance.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=1384677 Embrace Joy Without Fear $10 minicourse videos, charts, bonus's
  15. 4 points
    As I've been watching the news and scrolling through social media over the past couple of months, I've noticed certain divides expanding: the divide between the right and the left, between lockdown advocates and lockdown protesters, between those that follow mainstream news and those that follow alternative news sources. So I am wondering if we can discuss how mindfulness might help us to soften these perceived gaps. While yes, it is apparent there is a gap between certain viewpoints, can we focus on what actually unites us? I know there is also a growing sense of community and support in many places as well - so the story is not only about division. And yet, I think there is something worth looking at here: How can we take our personal mindfulness practice, understandings, and insights and use that to unite and ground the collective?
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    Very appropriate topic and excellent quote Gillian. I feel both more vulnerable and more empowered. Staying at home with my husband and not working makes me feel vulnerable: I'm not making money, I'm not being a psychologist and helping people (which I'm realizing was a role I was too attached to and defined myself by), I'm having to sit still with myself, and I'm having to spend more quiet time with my husband. In addition, I worried about the coronavirus, not so much for myself, but for my family and for all of those who have been infected and their families. I decided to take advantage of the time at home and enrolled in many online educational activities and trainings. I learned how to teach mindfulness skills to prisoners in Path to Freedom; I enrolled in Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction; I participated in numerous yoga and mindfulness seminars; I took a course on Chakras; studied Buddhism; read many books; wrote poems and added to a book that I've been writing. I invested in me, instead of investing in others, which was what I did for 13 years as a psychologist in private practice. What felt unnatural at first started to feel good. I noticed changes- an ability to stay present, increased patience, decreased "noise" in my head from eating disorder, increased satisfaction in relationships, better communication, more love to give. Watching George Floyd's murder left me feeling powerless and heartsick. Another moment of vulnerability, a terrible situation that I witnessed and couldn't stop, a horror that occurred in my own city. Then empowerment stepped in. I had previously joined HumanizeMyHoodie and became more active in helping the organization. I supported Black Lives Matter with a donation and by spreading materials. I read and studied American history- the real history. I immersed myself in Black literature and other cultural material. I spoke my mind to friends, family, and on social media. I shared resources. I celebrated the momentum of the protests and the subsequent changes across the country. I'm still celebrating, and I'm still an activist, a proud ally. What I've learned is that when I feel vulnerable, I need to speak up, tell my truth, own my feelings, and act on my values. I am empowered when I take action that aligns with who I truly am and what I believe in my heart. Even if that action puts me in a vulnerable position, I will be standing on a stage of power.
  17. 4 points
    Thanks Gillian! When I worked with clients and taught meditation, I always explained in detail what meditation was before beginning the process, since many were scared of anything new, particularly anything having to do with relaxation. Also, I always reminded them that they were free to keep their eyes open, which many people did, at least at first. I found that asking people to focus on their breath often backfired, since traumatized individuals typically breathe shallowly and can get caught up in doing it "right." So, I usually begin with a body scan. However, I don't do a full body scan, because trauma is stored in the body, so I do a facial scan and have the client focus on relaxing the facial muscles, and maybe the neck and shoulders. This is usually quite effective which makes the client motivated to try more meditation. Visualization meditations can be useful to. I have one where I have the client create a safe room that only they have the key to, and where they can return anytime. I have them use all of their senses to create images in the room, what do they see, smell, taste, feel, etc. to imprint the place in their mind. I always tell clients before we start that we can stop at any time if they're uncomfortable- they can either say 'stop' or hold up a hand.
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    That must have been quite tough @Gene Williams. That would of course shift and influence your journey related to expressing yourself. My environment was always very physically safe growing up but spiritually and emotionally it was constricting. As I moved through my teenage years and into adult life, I still held on to a lot of the 'good girl' conditioning that made me feel 'wrong' or 'bad' for expressing my feelings and needs (and to some degree, still do). So for me, learning to speak up in my teenage and early adulthood years was never in opposition with my physical wellbeing - a situation I'm very blessed to have experienced.
  19. 4 points
    Share a little more about yourself and let us know something that most people don't know about you. For instance... What did your childhood self yearn to be when he/she/they grew up? When was the last time you laughed until you cried? What was your biggest mistake turned lesson? What are you afraid of, big or small? What unique quirks do you have? This list of questions is by no means exhaustive of where this can go. Use your imagination to dig for something wild/surprising/unusual or share something totally 'normal' (whatever normal is) and relatable.
  20. 4 points
    I'm going to quote my favorite Sufi poet Rumi: "What you are seeking, is seeking you." "Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there." I believe the key to mindfulness is being gentle with yourself and not having expectations. Allowing whatever happens to happen. Continuing to come back to your breath, believing that breath is all-sustaining, and understanding the miracle of breath- that we breathe without effort, that the universe wants us to live even if we don't want to. The evidence is simple- try to hold your breath. You simply can't, your body breathes for you. The easiest way for me to meditate or calm myself is counting my breath. I inhale to a count of 4 or 6, breathing down into my belly, and exhale slowly to a count of 8 or 12.
  21. 4 points
    I began a page called Journey 2 Joy "52 Weeks Challenge of Gratitude" Each week follow and post on that page.
  22. 4 points
    I wasn't sure which category to post this in, and choose trauma since it relates to disassociation, which I know can be a pitfall of certain mindfulness teachings. I want to bring up the topic of how becoming a "passive observer" of one's life and oneself can lead to constant self-monitoring, disconnection and withdrawl, and the question of how to avoid this, mitigate this? Running a google search will bring up countless accounts of those who have been harmed by mindfulness (in my opinion, by the way mindfulness was presented to them) in serious ways, such as disassociation, depersonalization, excessive self-monitoring, and feeling less engaged in life and more of a bystander watching themselves and life from the sidelines. I really want to address this pitfall of certain mindfulness teachings, of language used, and how it is presented, and I'm hoping to open up a conversation here about this importance and how best to go about it so that mindfulness is less likely to trigger or lead to disassociation/dis-connection, and so that it does what I believe it should, which is to make us more intimate with ourselves (which means relating to our experience, not disconnecting from it) and lead to engaging in the world in a freer way, coming more into direct contact with what IS, and being less separated from the world by over attachment to mental activity, and transforming how relate to our experience of reality by loosening resistance to what IS by cultivating acceptance, grace, befriending, and self-compassion. Here is a quote that I found very relevant: "It is possible for someone who goes overboard with mindfulness to end up becoming isolated from other people because they up being just a passive observer who has totally lost the ability to "lose themselves" in what they are doing." This has been my experience at times and I am passionate about asking the question - how can we teach mindfulness in a way that is less likely to lead to this outcome?
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    I think this is an important topic as well. As a psychologist, I specialized in working with individuals with trauma, and many were on the spectrum of dissociative disorders. I learned various grounding techniques when I saw that they were dissociating, such as asking them to name 5 things they saw, 3 scents in the air, 5 sounds they could hear, the taste in their mouth, 3 things they could feel, and getting them in their body. I did use mindfulness with these clients, but was very aware of their body language and level of awareness. Some people with dissociative identity disorder can benefit more from guided meditation that is very direct, where you go along with them, because silence can be an invitation for other parts to take over. For others on the dissociation spectrum, I found it helpful to explain that mediation is not about quieting the mind or stopping thoughts, but rather about creating space between the thoughts- not to get lost, but to provide some quite so they can be more in tune with their bodies. I always told clients to raise their hand or give me some kind of signal if they felt uncomfortable or became anxious and we could stop at any time. I didn't do longer meditations, which helped, although sometimes they were able to build up to longer meditations and found it extremely helpful. Progressive muscle relaxation meditation was very helpful too. Yoga is a great technique because it gets a person in their body and increases body-mind-spirit connection. Thanks for raising this issue!
  24. 4 points
    I have taught in business settings. Usually to people with high pressure jobs and a lot on their plate. I have focused on teaching them that Mindful singletasking is actually much more efficient than "multitasking" which is really just task switching. I also put a lot of emphasis on making sure that all of the Doing that has to happen throughout the day is Mindfully rooted in Being.
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    Hi! I am focusing on taking care of my whole self by starting every day with prayer, tea, and gratitude. I’m staying off anything electronic during my first and last 1 1/2 hours of each day.
  26. 4 points
    My go to is the Wayne Dyer, and through Chinese medicine with the Buddha brought me to mindfulness also. The Dalai Lama book, "The Art of Happiness" spoke much of mindfulness. Various other influencers along the way.
  27. 4 points
    I'm not a Zen Buddhist but I always appreciated the political and spiritual engagement of many Zen Buddhists like Thich Nhat Hanh. I feel like dealing with inner peace and actively participating in political and social life and standing up to injustice is not exclusive - it's actually one and the same thing. I think if we look at the noble eight-fold path, it includes right action, and that's not just "inner" action. Unless our morality translates into our lives and if we don't stand up for what's right then we aren't really living our values and I then see them as pretty devoid of meaning. At least that's how I see it.
  28. 4 points
    I am grateful for this compassionate community on the internet.
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    May you be happy, may you be healthy, may you have peace
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    I discovered Mindful Art Journaling by Rachel Rose on her website or on vimeo under Workshop Muse, yesterday evening and today my first experience : the freedom to mix medium watercolors, a charcoal crayon and color crayons and back to watercolors , energizing effect now about 20 min later ( the picture shows it) also surprising how the « rational » mind at moments wanted to interfere, where the aim of the exercise / practice is to let things emerge as they unfold, letting the impulse bubble up and follow the movement of the hand for me like letting express what is there even if I don’t have words for it, let myself be surprised and go with the process, no results ( ie a production / picture which I might put up on the wall or offer to someone) requested … just let it unfold … Who knows maybe it will talk to you too ?
  31. 4 points
    Emotions are not always easy to navigate, and in fact, they're a big push for a lot of us to explore mindfulness. So this week's question asks: How do you manage tricky or challenging emotions? Share any resources, insights, or techniques you use.
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    When I was young, I really didn't have an aspiration to grow up and do or be something. I was honestly just happy to be a kid. I think it was because the future was terrifying and I didn't want any responsibilities, or the burden to have to live up to a dream. Little known fact about me is that I can roller skate really well, I went with my Dad 3 times a week for over 10 years. Also, I can dance my butt off on skates, but am terrified to dance on a dancefloor. Great topic, and it makes me happy to share this...but also scary because it's a part of myself that hasn't really ever been out in the open. More happy than scary, which is why I'm posting.
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    @Tempus Hi, I do have challenges with to integrate mindfulness into my daily life , seem like sometimes / many times just goes out of the window and I'm mindless ... I meaning I`m on auto pilot, but I`m really happy when I notice that I wandered away and then I just stop for a moment and enjoy that I noticed that I noticed. I would say small steps. I also noticed that consistency is very important to my practice, I only do 10 min meditation mornings and 15 min evenings as I`m a beginner too , I feel its not about the minute its about a real quality I spend being mindful, I will be always able to increase the meditation time when I have a good foundation. May you be safe, healthy and live your life with ease. Helga
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    Awareness and integration. By this I mean -- adjusting my daily awareness to encompass more than just the routine "to do's" of life; but being aware that I will benefit by giving myself the gift of even 5 minutes of breathing meditation. Of course, for me, increasing my awareness is still a challenge, as I've only been practicing a few months. Integrating, or perhaps "weaving in" might be a better term, the discipline of practicing meditation is another aspect, though it seems to go hand-in-glove with awareness. I'm still exploring the subtle nuances of what this is for me.
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    Thanks, Gillian! My childhood self wanted to be a teacher and/or a singer. I am a teacher of sorts, and becoming more of one, and I would call myself an amateur singer. Something else ... I'm certified by the AMC/Appalachian Mountain Club as a "local hikes" leader. I'm also kind of a spelling geek ...
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    I was able to sit in conversation with four women and we had such a respectful and loving time together, everything flowed beautifully I’m feeling so blessed
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    I often sip cacao in the morning as I breathe and tune into whatever is flowing through me. This is the space I often do it from.
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    Today my affirmation is: I am purpose. I was created with great intentions. I am focused. I can and I will.
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    I completely understand that! Dr. Andrew Weil explains one simple technique that I've sometimes used before bed - 4-7-8 breathing. You can do it on your own or listen to a video where he guides you through it. I found two videos to explain 1) what breathing techniques do on a psychological level, and 2) him explaining/walking listeners through the 4-7-8 breathing technique. 1) https://mindfulnessexercises.com/dr-andrew-weil-breathing-exercises-health/ 2) If you try it, let me know what you think!
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    As requested, here are 2 links to the guided meditation recordings. The files were both too large to upload here so I'm providing links to the files in my Google Drive. One is in a .mp4 (500 mB or so) file with a nice background Large This file is audio only (11 kB) Small Please let me know if there are any issues or concerns.
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    I'm thinking this thread can be used to share what your affirmation for the day is. What do you wish to embody for the rest of your waking day? Today, mine is: I am confident, capable, and worthy.
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    This is a major point of The Body Keeps the Score. A few days ago I heard The Dhamma teacher Dawn Neal tell the story of her little niece being angry, pounding her fists on Dawn's thighs which were as high as the little girl could reach, and yelling in anger, "I hate you, I hate you, I hate you." Dawn looked down and said, "I love you." Her niece stopped yelling and hugged her. The lesson had to do with people needing to be seen and heard, precisely the point of The Body Keeps the Score and, if I understand correctly, Shaun's teachings on "reciprocity." We tend to do all sorts of things to "fix" problems we perceive in others or discipline them, usually to relieve discomfort we ourselves experience, instead of showing up for them. I think we can see this dynamic playing out on a huge scale with reactions to the protests of the Floyd killing. Regarding Jo's experience with alternatives for aspiring meditators who might have reasons to be uncomfortable placing attention on their breath or their bodies, Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness addresses this topic well, including Jo's suggestions as I recall. I have no formal training, but I lead a small meditation group and I like to encourage people to stay with objects that bring them some pleasure or ease. They can even do this pacing, doing walking meditation, if they are too anxious to sit. The Buddha taught that gladness was a condition for practicing. If we are not enjoying practice, the likelihood is we won't keep it up. I really enjoy reading what trained people do. Finally, I personally do not like talks punctuated with "if you'd like" and the like. To me it interrupts the flow. Of course, I am the type who doesn't need an invitation to reject what the leader suggests! I personally prefer a preliminary instruction allowing people to follow their own lead if that seems of most benefit. I had a teacher who's many "if you like's" seemed obligatory, not sincere, so that might be clouding my perspective. It's not like there is only one right way. Have a great day.
  48. 3 points
    This is a question I contemplate a lot. My present thoughts are that the wish to bridge these divides is beneficial to the extent it helps us tune in to how we might be too righteously grasping our own views and it motivates us to resolve not to make things worse through unkind speech and actions. It can inspire us to soften and kindly listen whenever civil discourse is available and to find and express common ground. At the same time, I believe the wish to bridge these gaps can be overly idealistic and reflect some wishful thinking rooted in denial and conflict avoidance. We are social animals and want to belong to our community and see it function harmoniously. When it does not, we feel a most uncomfortable dissonance between our compassion for suffering and our allegiance to the community, our craving to belong and get along. To resolve the discomfort it becomes easy to rationalize not taking appropriate actions but to maintain a semblance of harmony and/or loyalty. Through mindfulness we might sense into these tensions, emotions, and attitudes and see how they shape our intentions. We must adhere to our truths, for example that non-harming and promoting the wellbeing of all beings to the greatest practical extent is Important for moving toward a harmonious and thriving community. Through our practice we intend to do so from a place of kindness and warmth as opposed to hostility and aversion. But, often in this milieu our compassion must be fierce. Fierceness might be just simply and gently saying, “no,” asking for the information on which another bases his or her opinion, or looking for opportunities to introduce discreetly pertinent information whenever it will be tolerated. Where we are unsure, we could offer, “I’m not sure, but I have [whatever concern],” or something similar. Often we will be uncertain how to act or respond. I nevertheless think we should not shrink from being perceived as consistent advocates of views that might be unpopular with others. It then is not necessary nor even advisable to always speak up. I wish I really were skillful at any of this and am eager to learn what others contribute.
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    I haven’t read anything from Rupert Spira but will take a look. Eckhart Tolle has a very good website and he has material on Audible which you can download, some of these are the retreats he’s done around the world. One of the best is the Findhorn Retreat.
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