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  1. 4 points
    As I've been watching the news and scrolling through social media over the past couple of months, I've noticed certain divides expanding: the divide between the right and the left, between lockdown advocates and lockdown protesters, between those that follow mainstream news and those that follow alternative news sources. So I am wondering if we can discuss how mindfulness might help us to soften these perceived gaps. While yes, it is apparent there is a gap between certain viewpoints, can we focus on what actually unites us? I know there is also a growing sense of community and support in many places as well - so the story is not only about division. And yet, I think there is something worth looking at here: How can we take our personal mindfulness practice, understandings, and insights and use that to unite and ground the collective?
  2. 4 points
    I'm going to quote my favorite Sufi poet Rumi: "What you are seeking, is seeking you." "Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there." I believe the key to mindfulness is being gentle with yourself and not having expectations. Allowing whatever happens to happen. Continuing to come back to your breath, believing that breath is all-sustaining, and understanding the miracle of breath- that we breathe without effort, that the universe wants us to live even if we don't want to. The evidence is simple- try to hold your breath. You simply can't, your body breathes for you. The easiest way for me to meditate or calm myself is counting my breath. I inhale to a count of 4 or 6, breathing down into my belly, and exhale slowly to a count of 8 or 12.
  3. 3 points
    Happy new week, everyone! Mindfulness is giving me an assist with managing all that comes with being sheltered in place with my two kids while managing my household, my own work, and their school schedules. There are at least several moments each day where I may feel a rising sense of frustration, anxiety, or spaciness- and yet when I can catch myself in those places (or heading toward them), I can, as Joseph Goldstein so eloquently puts it. simply begin again. I can remember that the recognition of the mind wandering to the what ifs or the past is the practice of mindfulness in action. In those moments, I may just set my feet on the floor, step near a window or out into my small urban backyard, take a breath, feel my body, and know that I am right where I am, here, now. Everything else is just temporarily visiting. Be well. Rachel
  4. 3 points
    Hello @Ali Zien, This sounds like it was a powerful experience for you. I think you need to give yourself credit for recognizing, in the moment, that you were experiencing suffering and you became aware of these feelings in the moment. I can't say that this mental suffering really goes away. I am learning that the state of suffering is a part of life and for me, the best way to cope is to accept that it is there. Tara Brach talks about just accepting and allowing the experience to be there. I highly recommend reading "Radical Acceptance". We have started a book club on this site if you are interested. I have found that we can experience a sense of peace and equanimity when we stop mentally fighting painful thoughts, feelings, and emotions. The idea is not to try to "fix" anything. This makes life more manageable. Another good book that offers this perspective is Pema Chodron’s book, "When Things Fall Apart" https://www.brainpickings.org/2017/07/17/when-things-fall-apart-pema-chodron/ Good for you my friend for being able to step out of this cycle to break the pattern. This is a sign that your inner wisdom is taking root and you are being kind to yourself in the midst of experiencing difficult emotions. Kind Regards, Gene
  5. 3 points
    Lovely lyrics Gene. I think that's a wonderful way to think about music. I wonder if you can still give yourself that message, to be kind to yourself?
  6. 3 points
    I am a primary care physician and trained MBSR teacher . I also did trainings with Dr rick Hanson and positive neuroplasticity and i am now doing some polyvagal theory webinars with deb dana . The stress in the surgery for the patients and staff is massive at the moment and my trainings are really helping me and the patients . id love to hear how others mix the two areas . i teach mindfulness and mediation classes outside of my day job . currently doing it on line . its working well . Im teaching outside my day job as a dr as mindfulnessyourway.ie
  7. 3 points
    I’m David, now living in Utah. I was an attorney in public service, sometimes supporting the activities of government agencies and sometimes serving as a prosecutor. I would not say that I found my work unsatisfying, but I would say I never felt like it was totally aligned with my deepest values. My introduction to the teachings attributed to the Buddha about 14 years ago really struck a chord in me and I have been pursuing my interest in them and formal meditation practice vigorously ever since. I have organized a small meditation group through a local community center and participate in several others. Hello and best wishes to all of you.
  8. 3 points
    That must have been quite tough @Gene Williams. That would of course shift and influence your journey related to expressing yourself. My environment was always very physically safe growing up but spiritually and emotionally it was constricting. As I moved through my teenage years and into adult life, I still held on to a lot of the 'good girl' conditioning that made me feel 'wrong' or 'bad' for expressing my feelings and needs (and to some degree, still do). So for me, learning to speak up in my teenage and early adulthood years was never in opposition with my physical wellbeing - a situation I'm very blessed to have experienced.
  9. 3 points
    Hello, I am very familiar and trained in EMDR, which treats trauma by gradually leading the client through distressing memories while utilizing bilateral stimulation to help the brain resolve the trauma by neutralizing the memories, desensitizing them, and moving them from the amygdala to the hippocampus so the memories are less likely to be associated with sensations and be triggered, and more consolidated with other memories.
  10. 3 points
    Hello everyone I'm Ekerette I don't know if anyone here knows what it feels like to have been habitually not mindful? That's who I was. I'm hoping that by meeting, learning and sharing here I'll accelerate my development and contribute to others around. Kind regards.
  11. 3 points
    Hi I'm Abby, based in London UK. I've been meditating for the last 3 years but changes in my life now mean that I want to be more consistent in my practice so have signed up for the 100 day challenge. Look forward to being part of the community.
  12. 3 points
    I have no expertise in these areas. But, in my experience people pursuing effective communication often confuse it with effective emotional regulation. (Perhaps this is an unfair projection of distrust or some other bias on my part.) In order to achieve both, they often seem to skip over important steps in acknowledging difficult emotions and what those emotions are trying to tell us, something that always should be honored. Essentially they end up repressing the emotions, even after acknowledging them. LOL, but their features and posture often communicate those emotions anyway. Judging difficult emotions, like anger, or labeling them as being "negative" or "bad" encourages this result. Repressing emotions has been shown to be unhealthy and often counterproductive for effective communication. Moreover, being judgmental and repressive toward expressions of difficult emotions in others can be hurtful and harmful to those others. I think this sort of activity has a way of desensitizing us to actual people in the flesh, of inhibiting emotional intelligence, and causing us to align with groups, causes, or leaders that we find alluring but often display significant amounts of rigidity and intolerance. In my mind, this tendency is similar to the "awestruck effect." https://ideas.ted.com/the-dark-side-of-charisma/ It helps to remember that even inspirational figures like Gandhi and Mandela had their dark sides, particularly Gandhi. It is reported that both displayed insensitivity to their families. This is not to negate anything Gillian and Gene have said. My hope is to place what was said in a fuller perspective about how we move beyond anger. I think Buddhism is often misunderstood, in my view, to encourage the repression of certain "negative" or "bad" emotions. I do not recall the precise quotation, but the Buddha denied teaching that one should pursue any practice always; what he taught was pursuing whatever practice leads to wholesome, skillful, or beautiful results. For beginners at meditation, this might mean trying to subdue difficult emotions temporarily in order to gain greater stability and spaciousness of mind, but later it might mean sensing into those very same emotions and exploring them as naturally occurring phenomena to learn their conditions and effects more fully. I don't say this to invoke the Buddha as an authority but to attribute and repeat what I think is very sound advice. A natural consequence of following this advice might be greater care and compassion for self and others and a lessening of any tendency to feel hostility or irritation. LOL, I'm still working on that, but these things happen gradually over time, not in some incredible epiphany.
  13. 3 points
    Hello @Gillian Sanger, @David Weiskopfand @Jo L, This is a complicated question without an easy answer. I can't add anything substantial to what has already been said. Yes, we do have to understand other perspectives and be able to hold competing perspectives, without judgement. Being mindful of our needs and the needs of others is a pathway to finding common ground. I am a little familiar with Dr. Marshall Rosenberg's work and believe that we all have basic needs and much conflict is caused because competing individual’s and groups have different methods and approaches to meet those needs. Unfortunately, the approaches to meeting those needs are often carried out in negative and self-defeating ways that causes harm to the self and others. I, like David, find it challenging to simply accept other people or groups who are causing harm. There is a time and place when the appropriate response is to exercise "fierce compassion" and say "no" to actions that cause harm and lead to injustice. One thing I am working on within our current political divide is to work on understanding mindfully why I react the way I react to the strong opinions of others when I sense injustice. If I am not caught up in my own strong feelings and emotions, I can feel them, know that are present and understand my reactions when I feel my needs are being challenged. If I can process this mindfully, then I can respond with equanimity. This allows me to move beyond anger and self-righteous indignation. Within that space, I can stop feeling angry and see the human being or group who are trying to meet their own basic needs. I may not feel comfortable with how they are trying to meet those needs but I can still recognize their humanity. They also want to be happy, healthy, safe and secure. This allows space to exercise "fierce compassion" and say "no" to injustice without anger or aversion. Then I am in a position to respond from a state of equanimity. I can challenge social injustice and still recognize and acknowledge the human being who may be suffering and attempting to free themselves from suffering. At the very least, if anger and indignation is not present, people and groups with different options can talk with each other instead of at each other. This is all well and good in theory but difficult to practice in the real world. But as I write this, I plan to make this my aspiration and part of my mindfulness practice. Regards, Gene
  14. 3 points
    Hi, Gene. Living in Ogden, UT, I also lack a community to connect with. I am lucky that my wife shares an interest in Buddhism and formal practice. I've followed a few teachers and have gone to retreats with them. I learned a lot, but did not find what I was looking for, even allowing for the possibility the problem was me. I have pretty much landed with Gil Fronsdal and the Insight Meditation Center he co-founded. (The "pretty much" reflects no reservations about Gil, but more my distrust of the mentality of groups of any kind.) Especially now with the pandemic, they have a lot of online offerings, even for retreats from home. I'm not trying to promote them, simply advising of their availability if you are not already familiar with them. From the perspective of secular Buddhism and the science of mind, I recently became very impressed with Dan Siegel from reading his book Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. Have you read that one too? I have a very few Buddhist books that I read over and over again, but I hesitate to recommend them because so many of us have different doorways to the practice. It's funny, thinking of Jo's recommendations, neither of her recommended teachers are included in my list, but their teachings have had a very great impact on me. I am glad she volunteered her favorites because I always am curious about who people believe had the greatest impact on them. Best regards.
  15. 3 points
    Thank you, Gillian and Jo, for your thoughtful contributions. I really appreciate Gillian having asked the question. It seems like an extremely important issue for these times.
  16. 3 points
    Nice to meet you too, Mel. I also teach yoga, Vinyasa, Hatha, and what I call "free-form" since I taught individually to my psychology clients. I also love yoga nidra. Currently I am in a course called Path to Freedom which is about teaching mindfulness to prisoners. It's fascinating. Love it! Thanks, you too!
  17. 3 points
    I would like to offer that in Zen we like to say there is no good zen or bad zen only zen. This is the same with much in life. There really is not good or bad there just is. So just be. Experience what is being, experience the reality that it is and that is all. Let all you experience be seen, felt and pass by. It is then awesome to be able to process in a better frame of mind. Blessings. Paige
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    I love this one:
  19. 3 points
    This is a question I contemplate a lot. My present thoughts are that the wish to bridge these divides is beneficial to the extent it helps us tune in to how we might be too righteously grasping our own views and it motivates us to resolve not to make things worse through unkind speech and actions. It can inspire us to soften and kindly listen whenever civil discourse is available and to find and express common ground. At the same time, I believe the wish to bridge these gaps can be overly idealistic and reflect some wishful thinking rooted in denial and conflict avoidance. We are social animals and want to belong to our community and see it function harmoniously. When it does not, we feel a most uncomfortable dissonance between our compassion for suffering and our allegiance to the community, our craving to belong and get along. To resolve the discomfort it becomes easy to rationalize not taking appropriate actions but to maintain a semblance of harmony and/or loyalty. Through mindfulness we might sense into these tensions, emotions, and attitudes and see how they shape our intentions. We must adhere to our truths, for example that non-harming and promoting the wellbeing of all beings to the greatest practical extent is Important for moving toward a harmonious and thriving community. Through our practice we intend to do so from a place of kindness and warmth as opposed to hostility and aversion. But, often in this milieu our compassion must be fierce. Fierceness might be just simply and gently saying, “no,” asking for the information on which another bases his or her opinion, or looking for opportunities to introduce discreetly pertinent information whenever it will be tolerated. Where we are unsure, we could offer, “I’m not sure, but I have [whatever concern],” or something similar. Often we will be uncertain how to act or respond. I nevertheless think we should not shrink from being perceived as consistent advocates of views that might be unpopular with others. It then is not necessary nor even advisable to always speak up. I wish I really were skillful at any of this and am eager to learn what others contribute.
  20. 3 points
    Hello everyone! I’ve been lurking in the shadows receiving and ‘filing’ Sean’s emails for the 100 Day Meditation practice. I am a Social Worker working in the Child Protection space so find my work challenging and busy resulting in a very busy mind. I have 3 children, 2 with special needs, so have been trying to embrace Mindfulness and Meditation for as long as I can remember and never seem to find the time. I hoping by committing to a community I will dedicate more time to mindfulness. I certainly see the benefits when I take the time to do it. I would like to eventually study mindfulness with a view to teaching it to parents and children as my long-term goal is to work as a therapist/coach to assist families to be strong family units providing safety and security for themselves and their children. As a SN parent there was never much support/help for my husband and I (and our daughter) but lots for our SN children. I would like my impact in the this world to be a shining light (lighthouse) for the whole family and help them through difficult times. I’m looking forwarding to learning from you all, developing new experiences and a sense of calm Cheers Keera
  21. 3 points
    Hi Gillian, Thank you for your very helpful advice. Yes the 14-day-course is by Jeremy Lipkowitz; I like the format and how it is presented. I just have to follow the process and do the worksheets. The overlap of worksheets between the two programs added to my confusion/frustration. Regarding what brought me to mindfulness: on a lighter note, I am still looking for the proverbial "silver bullet" My wife and I have always been interested in growing spiritually and emotionally as human beings. We've read lots of books, gone to lots of workshops. Each of us resonated with different materials/modalities. I have been practicing EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) for several years to help with stress, anxiety, and physical pain. I find that it helps, especially during this COVID-19 era. A few years ago I came across Jon Kabat Zinn's mindfulness material, go into it a bit, and found it 'too clinical' for me. I've been looking for simpler meditations of 5-20 minutes and came across this website, I recognize that one of my challenges is that I have high expectations of outcomes and if I don't see/feel results in a few days I'll start looking for something else. The fact that there are tens of thousands of types of meditations and exercises makes it even harder. BUT, going through the last 12 days of the two mindfulness exercises the thought that kept coming up was "listen and watch the videos, the PICK A FEW and do the work!". So I will spend this month re-reading Sean's "Mindfulness Meditation for Beginners" eBook, completing the "Mindful Life Design" questionnaire and getting into the 14 Day program again in more depth. Expectations? "Go with the flow"
  22. 2 points
    I'm glad you can relate! I remember my grandfather talking about having no electricity and using an outhouse! We really take a lot for granted! Although I'm not sure all the digital media is a good thing or bad- depends on how it is utilized. That's lovely and very thoughtful!
  23. 2 points
    I like to make gratitude lists in my journal, particularly when I'm feeling down. I've found it's nearly impossible to be in a bad mood and be grateful at the same time. For some reason, every morning when I take a shower, which is sometimes a chore because I like to take my time reading, writing, drinking coffee and lounging around in the morning, I focus on being grateful for having hot, running water. Such a simple thing that we take for granted, yet something that many, many people do not have. It helps me start the day in a positive and thankful mood. I also focus on all of the wonderful people in my life who love and support me. I am also grateful for all of you and this community
  24. 2 points
    That sounds like a noble and admirable mission Gene. Good luck to you!
  25. 2 points
    first of all it was gratitude journal, but I wasn't able to cultivate any power to it anymore. then I've discovered Morning power questions by Tony Robbins, they are easy to do anywhere. What are you grateful for ? what are you happy about ? what are you committed to ? what are you excited for ? what are you enjoying most in your life ? who do you love ? who loves you ?
  26. 2 points
    @Paige PIlege When I recorded a series of meditations for children (I too am an educator, and I work in a large urban center with a marginalized, underserved population), I used an app on my Mac called Audacity along with my son's video gaming headset microphone, and it was able to be edited for noice reduction. And was very easy to use! I am not tech savvy really at all. Check it out!
  27. 2 points
    Nice to meet you @Ali Zien, I also really enjoyed reading The Power of Now. We also have Sociology in common. My Degree major was in Sociology. I look forward to following your posts. Regards, Gene
  28. 2 points
    Hello Ali! Love your smiling picture and how you found a look-alike cat! Wow- 7 cats?!? You are obviously a good care-taker and kind human being. I appreciate the metaphor about meditating being like boxing- it is always a practice. The book The Power of Now blew my mind, and in fact I have to re-read it so I can actually absorb the message more deeply. Welcome, and I think you'll find this is a safe place for all questions! Namaste
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  30. 2 points
    Thank you for your excellent comment. There are few things as powerful as an embodied experience. We are human BEings, not human DOings.
  31. 2 points
    When I think of this question this morning, a favourite old song comes to mind by the Little River Band. These are the lyrics that I am hearing: Take it easy on me. It should be easy to see. I'm getting lost in a crowd. Hear me crying out loud. I often felt lost in the world and needed to feel and experience this message. I did not realize it at the time, but growing up, I often experienced music as a way of practicing loving kindness. I would tell my older self to be kind to himself.
  32. 2 points
    This is a picture of the ocean in Hutchinson Bay, FL, where my in-laws have a condo. The ocean is a special place for me. The sound of the waves is soothing, and I have a lovely memory of my mom and I standing out on a dock at Seal Beach in CA, talking about her deceased father, who is a wonderful man, and seeing the sun sparkle on the water like little diamonds. We both felt the presence of her father, and I felt so close to, and grateful for, my mom.
  33. 2 points
    Thank you for your kind words and welcome. I think that you might have commented on my introduction, but I had not replied. I am something of a tech trogladyte, and I am still learning about how to navigate this site. It appears that you have a lot of great experience, and I am looking forward to learning more from you. Shalom, Joseph
  34. 2 points
    Thanks for the compliment, Gillian. My wife says I really have "a way with words...a bad way!" (Argumentative.) I really am looking forward to yours and Paige's reaction to The Body Keeps the Score. It's not about practice but about so many modalities to address trauma and to make us whole. So, it has definite implications for practice. I thought the Buddha's insight was amazing, but there are things in this book that he couldn't have imagined in his day. I don't think they detract from the wisdom of the ancient teachings, except possibly in minor regards. Rather, I think the book complements the ancient teachings nicely. I want to explain why I refer so much to the ancient teachings attributed to the Buddha and not simply to mindfulness practice. I have a thing about secular mindfulness. I think it rips off the teachings of the Buddha and possibly other ancient traditions (I'm no scholar) without due attribution and credit. Moreover, I believe it tends to overly reduce and simplify things like sati or mindfulness to catchphrases while it tends to neglect other important aspects of practice. If one goes back to Gene's article containing the interview with Mark Coleman one can see how present-moment awareness without judgment is just one aspect of mindfulness practice, a starting point for forming skillful means as described in the interview. At the same time I recognize there are good reasons for making mindfulness teachings secular, for example to make them more appealing to people regardless of denomination for one and to make them readily subject to scientific scrutiny and validation for another. I'm saying this to explain why I continually tend to refer to the ancient teachings attributed to the Buddha instead of to "mindfulness." It's not to say Buddha Is Better or that it's not real mindfulness unless it's ancient-Buddhist. I am just as pleased with approaches of people like Paige who bring to their understanding of mindfulness an entire context of Chinese and holistic medicine and other influences. I guess I'm saying that in my perspective secular mindfulness begs for much needed context. I got in trouble for asking my MBSR teacher why she suggested we look for what "triggers" us and what that instruction had to do with nonjudgmental awareness of present-moment experience? I just as easily could have asked why was the teacher introducing instructions to bring to mind images for lovingkindness practices, or even inviting us to bring attention to a particular sensory object like the sensations of breathing or sounds? The sad thing was the teacher couldn't provide an answer, so to me that teacher's version of secular mindfulness did not sufficiently promote discernment and empowerment. It's funny I am not nearly so convinced that all people are basically good as I am that they all have some innate capability for at least some wisdom. Being "Awake" to present-moment experience, while it might be invigorating and restorative, doesn't do all that much for us if it doesn't also serve to better inform our intentions and actions, does it? In fact, it brings to my mind images of Mindfulness Zombies, staggering happily and aimlessly with eyes bulging. I don't mean this to be argumentative, but you probably appreciate now why my wife sometimes thinks I am so. I don't want to end this without admiringly saying that Sean does bring into play so much more than the simple operative definition of mindfulness, but I still balk at it. Night of the Lifeless Awake!!!
  35. 2 points
    @Gene Williams @DaliaThis is the most difficult thing for me because I went so many years thinking I HAD to take care of things. With a missing husband and not being aware that he was hiding from me and his two sons for years. I felt my responsibility as being my love equal to caring for them and then the overage go to him. Today I think of myself first, but I seem to still think of others first. From the moment I wake up. I take the shortest hours of the day. I am realizing that I have to work on MY time. Hmmmm. Thank you for both your insight and helping me stop and think about this. A continuous work in progress. Not just meditation a few slots of the day but at all times as well the under consciousness. Again thank you.
  36. 2 points
    @Gene Williams @Gillian SangerYes, you are very open Gene about the fact that humanity has such issues with anger and being able to accept those that are being their true nature which is anger and neglect; wrong-doing. Agenda's seem to become conflict when survival is apparent. I, even though I think I have a handle on it, I find I do not. I sit next person not as, spiritually developed and sink into their world of road-rage and disdain on the internet. Ego driven by (past habit)not understanding that that is why it happens. Once in my environment, it goes well and loving and passionate; but then life of the mundane creeps in. THIS, will be the mission for the rest of my life i am assured. Gillian- I also agree that there is an in-between. I feel we all reach it and accomplish it more and more. Once again interruptions of the mundane, unconscious living that is ingrained in us from birth. I too, feel so much more accustomed to recognizing and actually voicing my emotions to let others know where I am. If a grown up tempts me in anger for too long i voice, "I do not anger well, it is not pretty" in voicing this out loud I can recognize it and decide where it should go. It helps me tremendously. With my practice, I recognize and can feel when others are about to go in that direction of unknown control with emotions and try to ward it off a different direction. This is intuition practiced. Thank you both for being so insightful and expressing things openly. This makes a great conversation.
  37. 2 points
    Good morning, Gene. Yes, the "Just Like Me" practice can help build empathy and compassion and thereby help bridge gaps that exist because people hold conflicting views. Thanks for bringing that into the conversation. When I was trying to understand the lay of the land in Buddhist ideology, I recognized an emphasis on loving kindness, compassion, and sympathetic joy that I certainly did not feel in the ways the writers related. So, I tried reading Sharon Salzberg's book Lovingkindness. Although I rationally understood what she was saying, I did not relate well to it. I think I was too self-absorbed. So, I picked up a copy of Jeffrey Hopkins' A Truthful Heart. As I recall, there were a lot of "Just Like Me" practices. Whatever the number or style of presentation, they made a huge impression on me and ever since I have repeated that reflection on a very frequent basis, at least daily. As I read your post, I was both nodding in agreement and at the same time thinking, "No, there is the aspect of harming that sometimes cannot be bridged!" Then I read the interview with Mark Coleman you cited and I was so gratified to see that I did not have to say a word. Mark spoke well to the dilemma often posed by wanting to bridge gaps when people are wedded to actions and views that contribute to great harm. Thanks for the article. I bookmarked it. Thinking we all were getting close to leaving this topic for awhile, I looked back and had one reflection. Implicit in Gillian's question and so many of the responses was something so important--the intention to bridge the gap, to not cause enmity, harm, and separation through bitterness and stubbornness. This sort of aspiration, intention, and resolve is so important. When we become self-absorbed it is usual to lose sight of those good intentions or to distort them into rationalizations for our self-righteousness. It was just like me to respond by casting light on the usual impediments to carrying through on our best and noble intentions. I have a tendency to skip over our best qualities and to point out people's hypocrisy. You know what they say about "good intentions?" "The road to hell is paved" with them. But, those good intentions are extremely important. Oftentimes, they simply are not sufficient. Moreover, there is a need for equanimity and keeping balance when the gaps cannot be bridged by even the most skillful efforts on our parts. When intentions are held and conveyed from a place of sincere concern and balance, they have at the very least subtle effects on others. They certainly are beneficial to the holder. So, I thank all who in some way, expressed such good intentions.
  38. 2 points
    Seek a professional to learn from and stick to it. That experience is irreplaceable. The teachings and friendships are irreplaceable. I would tell my self 10 years ago to just breathe and what you see and feel is what you get. Figure things out and get of the situation that is not benefiting you. People that do not benefit you, hinder your progress of growing and learning.
  39. 2 points
    Thank you @Gene WilliamsAs I did this scan it was crazy how the pain or sensation that I was focusing on went away. I will always use this . I like using it mostly at night. In the past years I have come to pay attentions so much more to my body. It is a nice feeling to connect to the self in body form and understand what it does and now it functions. This suit of flesh we wear.
  40. 2 points
    @DavidHi David, I listened to The Power of Now 20 years ago as an audio. It was very powerful for me. It was impact information for me. Anything with the word "power' I was searching for then. It really brought home to me just how impermanent we are. And that life is seriously misunderstood by so many people. I was ready at that time to take on the now. Raising an autistic child I had to be on my toes on how he saw things ahead of time to try to teach him social responses. etc.
  41. 2 points
    I like your comments David. I just watched a meditation session with Jon Kabat-Zinn and he said something interesting- that when meditating uncomfortable emotions like fear or anger may arise, and rather than trying to rid your mind of them, know that there is a spaciousness to allow them. He said something about laying down a welcome mat for these emotions. I thought it was lovely.
  42. 2 points
    Day 15: Sensory Awareness Integrated Practice: Practice open awareness today by allowing yourself to notice details around you that you may not normally pay attention to (e.g. the color of other cars on the road, smells in the air, sounds in your office, other people’s body language, etc.). If it helps to pick a specific time to do this, try something like when walking from your vehicle to your office or home, or perhaps while running an errand today. Reflection Question: I had more moments of being aware of being aware. When I was walking, I felt very present and at one point experienced a strong sense that I did not know who I was…the feeling was that I felt disconnected from a self.
  43. 2 points
    I completely agree about emotions and thoughts not being good or bad- after all, we cannot control what we think or feel. And, it's a total set up for feeling shame and guilt. For example, and I think I said on here somewhere else, I grew up Catholic so of course was taught that thoughts were "bad" and were monitored by God. So, when I 'thought' a swear word or a negative or 'sinful' thing about wanting to 'hurt' my sister when I was mad at her, I was immediately ashamed and thought I needed to repent for my sins. Actually, I was simply a human child with typical thoughts. It matters what we do with our thoughts and feelings and how we express them. I agree that repressing feelings is unhealthy- they always come out- in veiled sarcasm or internalized depression. There are healthy ways to express all out emotions. Anger is a protective emotion- it alerts us to possible danger and harm. We can channel it appropriately and learn to express assertively .
  44. 2 points
    Indeed difficult to practice! However, I think it's also great to acknowledge that there can be an in-between way of being, or a transitional one. For instance, compared to how I was before, I am MUCH quicker at acknowledging where I've used an angry or condescending tone with my partner for instance, and I would say I am pretty swift now (though not perfect) at apologizing for it and then shifting to a state of open, curious listening. I think it's worth noting where we ourselves and others make baby steps in the more compassionate, conscious direction.
  45. 2 points
    I agree with both of you. Humans are so eager to categorize and find themselves superior in some way. It will take a paradigm shift. I do also believe in the possibility, but there are many obstacles.
  46. 2 points
    Also, I've recently been listening to a ton of podcasts and videos of Charles Eisenstein. He's an incredible philosopher in my eyes. Here's a link to one of his videos on 'How to Discuss Polarizing Topics':
  47. 2 points
    Hi Gillian, I teach earth science, so from the very begining I've always had a respect and appreciation for our world and universe. But it seemed like an 'outsiders' view. Now I can honestly say I do feel more connectedness. As for incorporating mindfulness into my teachings? Funny you should ask Not only to my students but also during our faculty meetings as well. It's been received well to say the least. I've got a few years left at the university until I move on to a different educational path. Wishing you a peaceful day.
  48. 2 points
    Love Tina Turner- she does a lot of chanting- beautiful!
  49. 2 points
    Great idea! Here's some of my favorite: This is often played during yoga class.
  50. 2 points
    My wife and I go on our mindful walks depending on the weather. On one of our most recent walks I noticed a red rock along the path that I'd hadn't seen before. As we got closer we found this message 'Be Kind'.

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