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    Hi David, thank you for seeing Gillian and I as people on the spiritual path as you clearly are. You, Gillian and I may have various ideas about consciousness but we are all open to learning more. I read that beautiful poem you sent us the link to. Poets so often capture truths that ordinary prose doesn't. I found it quite meaningful. Thanks for letting us know you are on retreat. May the experience be only good. Daniel
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    Hi David, First, I value the posts you make. I hope you continue your comments from your own point of view. I agree that we are interconnected and interdependent. I also agree it is important to examine why we might be attracted to one spiritual path or another. I will share a preference of my own: please look into quantum physics. There are a lot of quantum physicists that are following data and its implications in their scientific work. One is Brian Green. His data suggest String Theory is a viable explanation for the universe. His data suggest that the universe is part of a multiverse connected somehow by "strings" of energy. This theory postulates that there are between 9 and 11 other dimensions which humans can't experience. This may seem incredible but currently, with the unaided human eye we can not see ultraviolet light, but it exists. I have waded into this information on quantum physics for the last two years and many of my earlier beliefs have been challenged. I do want to mention that four physicists in refereed scientific journals have published data suggesting that consciousness may well exist independent of the mind but works through the mind in humans and perhaps other sentient beings. I feel humbled when I read or see videos of these people presenting their data. They surely could all be wrong. They would all admit that. However, some of them may be correct. There are many more fundamental discoveries of quantum physics which are not doubted but quite shocking at first encounter. Those are beyond what I want to say here. I agree that assumptions about a philosphical base of a spiritual path can be related to why we might choose one over another. I love Buddhism and Buddha for the positive social impact we all can have following his ethics. I follow mindfulness for that reason. However, the Hindu concept of the Atman, the "real" spritual self appeals to me as well. I can hold these differing ideas of self and not mind that they disagree. I am more inclined to Buddhist Vispanna meditation and plan to stick with it. I expect and hope that there is room in your life for a seeker like me. Daniel
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    Am doing my day 4 I do my small walk and it is relaxing When I try try to pay something on my main card today and it wouldn't work so I contact the company about my card and the person said to me it is suspended until I pay my bill that means that I can't use my card and I feel little sad because I want to pay a gift for my nephew's birthday.
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    Thank you for sharing ^_^ ♥ In my Islamic tradition when we greet people or say good bye, we say: Peace be upon you. السلام عليكم Al-Salam Aly-oukim. Peace be with you Rachel ^_^
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    On retreat last week, my teacher shared this mantra: Om Gaia Mandala Siddhi Phala Bhrum Ah, translated as Oh Mother Earth, Mandala of LIfe, May the Fruit of Your Spiritual Powers Be Realized. It is credited to Lama Cynthia Jurs, founder of the Earth Vase Treasure Project https://earthtreasurevase.org/ It can be chanted in song form or chanted 108 times using mala beads. In peace- Rachel
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    Yes... Emotions so very tricky. Today especially I am remembering this...... To do this ...... When I engage in my daily meditation, because my emotions have been a weakness for me in the past ...meaning my feelings have been always easy hurt.... My daily affirmations have really help me take control of this. I am strong...I am happy ... I am always in control of my feelings and my vibration is always high high high!!!!! i always allow the feelings, but I quickly reach for my affirmations and it works so very well. Thank you for your posts!!
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    I'm working on my second day and I clear my mind and reading my body when am doing the breathing exercise.
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    I'm starting 100 challenge today.
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    Good job! stay committed!
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    Hi. I just signed up for the program and am very enthused about it. I also struggle with judgment of the judgmental. Donald Rothberg, a member of the teachers council at Spirit Rock Meditation Center, has done a lot of work on "Transforming the Judgmental Mind" including retreats based on that theme. Anyone interested can access his talks on Dharma Seed. Look under "teachers" then "Donald Rothberg" then "talks by this teacher", then "transforming the judgmental mind". In fact, he is doing another retreat (online from Southern Dharma) starting on Sunday, Oct. 25, Donald is a superb teacher. Good luck with the struggle! That's a tough one.
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    With 58% of vertebrae species, 80% of freshwater fish, 40% of the global insect population (76% in some regions), and 90% of ocean biomass having extincted just since 1970, ... and with 70-90% of remaining species projected to extinct by the end of this century (at current rate of extinction, not factoring in acceleration), ... and with cognitive ability and average IQ scores plummeting (7 points since 1970) and dementia now the fifth leading cause of human death, ... and with human sperm viability declining 53% since 1970, ... and with climate chaos and a ‘baked in’ 3-5 C temp increase with an exponential increase in catastrophic weather projected this century (which will collapse civilization), ... and with suicide and psychosis rates steadily increasing, ... and as Earth’s geomagnetic poles erratically wander as the strength of the terrestrial electromagnetic field rapidly weakens as an overdue geomagnetic excursion ramps up (a geomagnetic excursion significantly contributed to the extinction of the Neanderthal species 41k years ago). ... and as it becomes increasingly clear that the human species is already in an actual full-blown existential crisis, ... I try to daily remember to get over myself and actively help others here in this age of uncertainty, mass extinction, degeneration and collapse. - - - It isn’t life as usual anymore. It isn’t all about our privileged and endless tsunami of dissatisfaction, constant craving, self-absorbed patterns of thought, addictive emotional reactivity, or our much cherished hallucination of a separately existing invulnerable solid ‘self’. We are short-lived biological organisms, innately embedded in a rapidly unraveling thin fragile layer of life here in an increasingly unstable planet that we are utterly dependent on for the sustenance and survival of the human species, and as Andy Fisher wrote: “As the biosphere crumbles, so do we.” The human species, right now, is crumbling. Modern people have forgotten what we are, where we are and how where we are actually operates, to our great detriment. They have forgotten that there is no solid ground to be found anywhere in all of existence. The practice and experience of mindfulness (or ‘sati’, translated as ‘remembering’ in the ancient mnemotechnical tradition from which it was extracted, relanguaged, renamed and repurposed for modern consumer culture) originally existed for the purpose of reminding the species that the nature of all existence is endless change, uncertainty, dependence and impermanence. Collapse is inevitable and most of humanity, wandering lost, disembodied, and isolated in a ritually fortressed conditioned bubble of storification and self-fascination, has no idea what is flying at us again like a speeding runaway Mack Truck. Remembering that Earth, and the human body, have never been safe places to live is medicine for our very modern madness of self-obsession, amnesia, ignorance and denial. Remembering that our purpose for living is to help each other, and to protect the web of life, provides us with meaning. As it grows darker, remember to be the light.
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    "I wish for you to be happy" Finished day 5.
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    am doing my day 7 What I noticed from this week's practice was? Am having gratitude in my doing in my life and having great relationships around me. I have a person that I really love and getting married to. I'm grateful to be myself what am doing things that I love to do by being busy. I wont judge myself and others and I will try to help out whenever I can. Things that will help me stay focused on my practice next week are? writing and keep a journal and detailed their gratitude in a happy way. practice gratefulness and sense of respect toward others. practice greater interconnections.
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    It is wonderful to have you in the community @ockert! I am happy to see your updates about the 100 Day Challenge I'll start off by answering some of the questions: I joined this community right as it began, coming on as the community moderator. When Sean mentioned that he was planning this community, it seemed quite aligned to something I had been feeling at the same time, which was this yearning for a community with which I could talk about mindfulness, spirituality, and all the things that fall under these umbrella terms. Over the past year, my own personal practice has ebbed and flowed with each month. Sometimes I am more drawn to silent practice; at other times, I love guided meditations. Sometimes I prefer stillness; sometimes I long for mindful movement. Right now I find myself called to talks and mindful movement. One piece of wisdom I would share with myself of one year ago... Hm... I think I would remind myself not to rush - to be wherever I am, however I am. And to tend to that self with patience, kindness, and compassion.
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    I just finished the I AM meditation for day 51. It was an extremely powerful experience. From the instant I heard the speaker's voice I felt safe in some profound way. He moved at a slow pace during the meditation and each comment or question took me deeper into and experience of awareness. I had very few thoughts but strong responses to being the I AM, the eternal consciousness. I was moved by the statement that all that comes into awareness is not me. I am the consciousness aware of the idea or thought or topic. I know this is a more Hindu thought but it blends into the Buddhist ideas of consciousness. I did not want to open my eyes when the recording ended. It felt so wonderful being where I let it take me. Daniel
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    Am typing up my day 5 because I forgot to do that How did the practice of wishing others well impact your interactions?. I will try to think before I talk to my people and I know well. Did it shift your mood in anyway? When I workout at the gym that brings up my mood also the practice to. My attention will be listening to my relationships more when I see my friends and families also other people around me. Am typing up Day 6 What information do you receive when checking in with your body? it's all about awareness. The body check in is a tool and effective more when we use it and become more aware.
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    I will not even make such an attempt! As for consciousness being the ability to be aware, I would differ and say that consciousness has the characteristic of being aware of awareness, a reflective quality. There obviously are simpler examples of neural responses to stimuli or chemically mediated responses in plants and inanimate things. But, as far as we know, those things lack awareness of the fact and cannot reflect on them or their qualitative impact. I like thinking about the subconscious or unconscious that might still meet a definition of consciousness except that we are not conscious of them! I prefer a definition of consciousness that deals with what of which we are aware from a phenomalogical perspective. Just me.
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    I have to report my Family & my previous Life experiences..all are a contribution to what brought me here today! The Whole Person is = to the Sum of its parts! Quad Erat Demonstratum! (Latin for That which is demonstrated!).
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    Great bows to you both, Gillian and Daniel. I am in retreat now and the teacher, as though privy to this thread, just read this poem: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/46545/eagle-poem
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    I am recently mulling this very dilemma (opportunity?). Covid and quarantine and the racial injustice uprisings have created a feeling within me that my time here is short and I should make good use of it while I am here. I have always loved working with children and families in urban education; but feel pulled to shift gears a bit using both my mindfulness practice and my heart yearnings as my guides. I have always been someone who put the practical before the dream...but I can't help but wonder now if they can intersect. Good food for thought. Thanks, everyone. Rachel
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    One person I have immense gratitude for is my teacher....she is part guide, part sister, part friend, part confidante, part role model, and part spiritual warrior. Her teachings and practices have helped me move through some challenging things, as well as help me to pause and notice all of the good there is around me in moments big and small. She walks through the world with so much integrity and heart, it would be difficult to not feel grateful being in her orbit. I honor and cherish her presence in my life.
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    Hello Gillian... Thank you very much... I am so happy to be back and be a part of the community. I have been super busy opening my new Wellness Studio. Finally all done and now I have time to be here. I love being a part and am thankful to be here. I am well during these crazy times... keeping safe and staying mindfully positive.... I sincerely pray that all is well with you and everyone here..... I am truly walking in much gratitude these days for sure...Be Well....
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    It is interesting to know that physicists are working on the nature of consciousness as well as philosophers and others. Last night on youtube I watched a presentation that summed up four published papers reasoning that consciousness has quantum qualities and works on the brain in certain ways. They are tipping towards an independence of consciousness that relates to the brain but is distinct from it. I think that the next 50 years will see a revolution in our understanding of consciousness. Daniel
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    Hello @Kimberly! Thank you so much for sharing - and it's lovely to see you back in the community How have you been during these times? That is a really great reminder - the power of affirmations. It can help to create the little shift in attention and energy we need. And thank you for your beautiful sharing @Verónica Zampach. I had to Google Translate but it came out in such a lovely way - "... I only felt gratitude for the rain, for the water, for the force of nature. I breathe this moment ... I enjoy the pleasant and restorative emotion of gratitude."
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    Emotions are definitely tricky. What you've shared here, Erin, reminds me of something a dear friend once said to me: "When the emotion is strong, the pause is long." I often think about this when I feel an urge to react out of anger or frustration. We can give ourselves time to just sit with what is present before responding. A practice indeed!
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    Thank you all so very much for your thoughts about and personal experience with this! I resonate with so much of what has been shared, and one thing that really stood how to me was what Katie, you said here: I can see this in myself greatly - this desire to change someone's mind, thinking that if only I say something the right way, something big will shift in their belief system. Yet, when reflecting on this notion and what you've written here, I am reminded that most change is gradual; a natural unfolding process. If we can ignite curiosity (while keeping our own inner source of it alive as well), maybe we become as a catalyst for long-term personal and collective growth. I also love the idea of trying to understand over trying to be understood. This is definitely a tricky one for myself as well, but like most things, it is a practice that becomes easier the more the mental muscle is used.
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    Hello everyone ( Hey Gillian ) I am starting a new phase in my life. My entire life was evolved and I am so happy for that but also little bit concerned with my mind going through infinite "What-if" loop. So, I decided to prepare myself holistically by taking 3 days home retreat (I just made this up, I don't know if this is called a retreat ), Initially I intended to to do it for 3 days and to meditate everyday for 5~6 hours and to fast from sunshine to sunset, But I started day 1 with a lot of fear of how I am going to do this I only did 4 hours of meditation. So, After careful considerations I decided to meditate 3 hours only a day, But at day 4 I was already doing so good at decided to continue to 10 days. At day 6 I was busy or lazy I don't remember but I delayed the last 2 hours of meditation before bed time, Now bed time is in 3 hours and I got to meditate for 2 hours, How on earth I am going to do that unless I sit down for 2 hours and take no breaks between meditation. This what I did. Yup...I even made myself a cup of tea and drunk it while meditating At day 7 I was struggling with meditation because I was upset that I am not perfect Zen master yet I was expecting that I will be present the entire hour but my mind still wandered for most of the meditation and I would catch my mind wandering dozens of times under one moment. Then, My spiritual partner scolded me for having so much expectations and for judging myself, She told me that she is "The worst meditator", "It's totally fine if I fall Asleep during the meditation", "It's perfectly fine for me if I only stay present for few seconds in the entire hour of meditation", "Your ego needs to enroll in expectation school!". Isn't she so sweet? I love her so much ^_^ This was the best lesson I learned in this journey, Expectations are conditions for happiness, Serve them no tea. The rest of days was the best as I started to be carefree about form and to eliminate any expectations of "how it should be", I would meditate with a cup of tea and during the meditation I could stop and pour myself a cup of water or I might pause to go to bathroom or to play with my little Zen master ( cat ). In the end of day 10... Nope, There was no staircase descending from the sky nor I attained enlightenment. I am just so happy because I started to be carefree of expectations and this made me much happier! I don't know what else to say Namaste!
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    Hi everyone! My name is Tanya Hawkins and I live in Foster City, CA (about 25 miles south of SF). I was certified in Mindfulness through Mindful Schools a few years ago and have been teaching mindfulness to kids in my local community ever since. I feel so grateful to be a part of this group and I look forward to learning from and sharing with everyone.
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    Hi, I'm mum to 2 grownup daughters and nanny to 3 grandchildren, Alex 13, Amelia 9 and mila 17 months. I'm twice married and divorced, although good friends with my 1st husband and father of my daughters. I now live with my partner of 13 months. I live with chronic pain due to osteoarthritis in most of my joints, and a collapsed disc and stenosis in my lower back which I'm awaiting surgery on. I've also got fibromyalgia which causes extreme fatigue along with increasing the pain from the other issues. I find meditation and mindfulness extremely helpful in coping with these illnesses.
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    Finished my first day.
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    Finished my second day.
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    Ahhh....Hi All!!! Glad I finally got connected to y'all!!! Photography is my Tease and a Challenge---the mere Mindful Focus keeps me centered when shooting! You can see some of my samples... The one thing about this Family Shot is that all three Folks were focused on different objects. Actually, Apple Corporate was below in the distance in Cupertino, CA. Someday I hope to colab. with a Painter to have one of my Photos in Paint!:)
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    I think that is a big part of what I might call limited thinking. I think in the same way we are empathetic with stories of abuse, etc, we need to express (albeit not easy) empathy to folks who need to elevate themselves above others and find fault with color, religious, gender, etc differences. If we can use curiosity to place doubt in their minds about their viewpoint, maybe we can make a small chip in the facade. Staying out of judgmental thinking for those who are being judgmental is a battle I continue to work on internally. In the same way a person has anxiety about leaving their home or going to the super market perhaps there are those that experience anxiety when confronted with difference. I believe there is research about this now and some work on relearning for people who struggle with judgmental biases/hate.
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    A couple days ago I listened to a dhamma talk by Ajahn Sujato in which he explained that the word “educate” derives from words meaning “to draw out of.” Adding to what Katie said, I take this to mean nurturing one’s inherent qualities rather than trying to indoctrinate and condition that person to meet others’ expectations and wishes. The difference to me feels like one of acceptance and caring—that encourages expansion of interest and growth—versus aggression and disdain, that is hurtful and discouraging. Is it possible that people cling to such outrageous beliefs and act out in such ridiculous ways because they feel safe with what is familiar and have been made to be fearful of stepping or peeking-out from their comfort zones? I don’t know.
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    I believe people need to feel safe and free from judgment in order to express curiosity and be open to the possibility of change. This involves creating an environment of acceptance for whatever may come to the surface and acceptance for the emotions of others without trying to fix or change them. It involves a willingness to explore from "I wonder why/if etc" rather than "why do you believe." Trying harder to understand than to be understood can go a long way......something we all need to work on starting with me. We also need to accept that what we have to say is not going to change someone else's beliefs but may ignite curiosity and movement in that person to pursue an internal exploration.
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    I just started the challenge and experiencing some challenges with remembering to do them, thinking I would do before bedtime and becoming distracted - starting a new routine. I meditate in the morning when I wake so wanted to find another time of day. I have already found the prompts helpful, especially for paying more attention to where my body is and sensations. I have been used to yoga breathing so wondering about the difference between open mouth exhalation vs exhale thru the nose.
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    I tried curiosity with a neighbor who treated others well in the neighborhood. However, he constantly expressed racist thoughts and generalizations about black people. Yet h'e couldnt account for the source of his racism. He had been unable to relate to black employees of a store he managed and had to be moved to be a manger elsewhere. l had to walk a tightrope in this conversation and needed all my skills as a therapist to have this conversation successfully. The origin was in his own family. He had been a gifted sportsman in high school. His parents needed his income from a job to meet family necessities. He still felt the rage over having had to sacrifice his sports dreams. To him, anyone who received andy kind of government aid was not making the sacrifices he had to make, and therefore got breaks he never had. He generalized from that anger and hurt to any and all black people who needed government aid to live. We barely made it through that conversation though we had a good relationship. It helped me understand him but did nothing for him to help him change himself. It helped me realize an important thing, behind racists and bullies lie fear, anger and some great hurt that prompts irrational ideas. I do not show curiosity much to anyone who is racist as barring an overall good relationship preceeding such a discussion it can prompt the rage to be directed at the questioner.
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    I think it's a super interesting concept. Thank you both @David Weiskopf and @Gillian Sanger for your comments. I feel very similar to both you. In one regard it's wonderful ... the more we can look inward and begin to better understand ourselves and "what consciousness means" for us the more we're able to make choices to live a more deliberate/conscious life. With that said, I still think there is large part of our population that is COMPLETELY asleep as to what it means to live a more consciousness life. It's not even on their radar ... they're completely immersed in a 3D world where everything they can see/feel/touch is all there is to "living." With that said, as Mikey points out in his presentation, so many of the apps out there now give us "feedback and data" as to how we're doing. For those still "trapped" in a 3D mindset, most often those apps are a means to an end to measure themselves by external parameters. Did I get enough steps in, did I sleep enough hours, did I [fill in the blank]? If this the perspective people are coming from, it adds another layer of judgement that will be piled on themselves rather than simply being useful information. And when people are "using" these tools without coming from a higher place of consciousness, there is alway the risk of the "tools" and information from those tools to be used in a nefarious way to control/manipulate. So from that perspective, technology of consciousness or "consciousness hacking" could be dangerous. As an enlightened person, Mikey is coming from this from a place of pure intension, but we as a society have to be careful to balance that with awareness that not everyone (at least at this moment) comes from that same place of pure intension. And as we create technologies in this regard we MUST keep that in mind, otherwise we run the risk of creating technologies "for the good of humanity" that actually have unintended and possibly quite opposite results.
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    Hi Gillian, just back from a two mile walk in the park on a gorgeous day. After lunch, I listened again. Same profound response. I am so glad Sean has this in the course. Different things work for different people. This works with me. Coincidentally, I discovered Rupert Spira on Youtube. I had listened to him several times over the past few weeks. He is known for the Hindu emphasis on I Am: consciousness is all; things present themselves to it. To me this is so freeing. Somehow we/I are part of consciousness and all those thoughts and feelings are ephemeral phenomena. That signals a liberation to me. Thanks for your kind response. Daniel
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    Hello everyone- Fresh back from a 4 day retreat in the gorgeous Finger Lakes of upstate NY. This question came to me in divine timing upon my return and re-entry. I am aware of the impermanence of all things (reminder courtesy of the brilliantly hued fall leaves floating to the earth and the glorious but fleeting sunrises and sunsets over the hills). I am aware of my body- really and truly aware of it- in some ways for what feels like the first time. I am aware of the good fortune I have and have had- both seen and unseen. I am aware of the unrepeatable breath. And this one. And the next. Be well, all. Rachel
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    My small group meets on Zoom due to the pandemic here in Utah. We only meet once each week for an hour. Zoom has worked well for us.
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    exhaling out from the mouth switches us from the central nervous system into the parasympathetic nervous system..i.e. from flight mode to a more relaxed state... plus a friend shared an article recently that exhaling out from the mouth is supposed to help with combating covid19... "The reason is that your nasal cavities produce the molecule nitric oxide, which chemists abbreviate NO, that increases blood flow through the lungs and boosts oxygen levels in the blood. Breathing in through the nose delivers NO directly into the lungs, where it helps fight coronavirus infection by blocking the replication of the coronavirus in the lungs. But many people who exercise or engage in yoga also receive the benefits of inhaling through the nose instead of the mouth. The higher oxygen saturation of the blood can make one feel more refreshed and provides greater endurance." https://www.oregonlive.com/coronavirus/2020/06/the-science-behind-why-this-is-the-safest-way-to-breathe-to-avoid-coronavirus.html
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    I am a college professor so 18-22 is my target age. I find this group just wants someone to listen without judgment. They want an adult to see them and respect who they are becoming. I am wanting to start bringing mindfulness to this group as we move back into a school year (covid be damned!) and I look forward to this group as I move into this challenge!
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    Who amongst us has taught within the school systems, whether to students or teachers? What ages did you teach and how did you effectively share your understandings and practice? Share whatever this experience is or was like for you. And, if you have any questions about teaching mindfulness within the education system, share those as well and hopefully we can support one another in learning more.
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    Interesting you say this Karen. I was just talking to a family member about how change happens, and we talked about this idea of absorbing things overtime. I think this applies to adults to. Specifically, we were talking about what happens when people are in a debate or argument. Often our egos stand in the way of us being able to acknowledge aspects of the other 'side' and yet we might find ourselves reflecting upon their words and views in the days that follow (often, this leads to an inner shift or opening). I think teenagers need this time to absorb things even more so as they are newly developing their own ideas and their ability to discern and sift through information. Thanks for bringing this up!
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    Oh, I forgot. In terms of linking things with nature, I've taken them on nature walks, mindful walks in silence where the instructions are to walk slowly and pay attention to what they see, hear, smell, etc. and then we discuss afterwards. We also have collected items that appeal to them, maybe a rock, leaf, blades of grass, and discussed those. Taking pictures in nature is also appealing and easy to do since almost everyone has their phones with them (older kids, that is). That's just a few ideas. I also do nature visualization meditations.
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    Hi Karen, How wonderful to be able to work with young children! As a psychologist I have worked with a lot of teenagers. The way I engage with them is often about relating to them by telling a bit about how much I struggled at their age. I don't go into detail, just share that I know how hard it is to be a teen, with all the emotional turmoil, the hormones, the parental b.s., school pressures, peer pressure, etc. Once they know I'm an ally, they begin to open up. I also let them know right away that our conversations are confidential, unless they reveal something that I feel needs to be brought up with their parents, but that I'll only talk to their parents after discussing it with them and deciding together on a strategy. Humor always helps, as well as using games and play (they might resist at first but they actually still have their younger playful nature in them). I also demonstrate my interest in them by asking a lot of questions- not just probing questions about their feelings but questions about what school is like, the latest trends in fashion, social media, and the latest lingo in teen-speak. They usually love to talk about themselves and all things teen-related. When I teach yoga, I make it fun and exciting by emphasizing how powerful they'll feel doing the poses, and how it's kind of like a magical way to transform their body and mind. Same thing with meditation.
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    Hello @Gillian Sanger and @Paige PIlege, I have worked in the health and social services field for over 30 years in various positions. I have experienced moments when I changed my experience by seeking out new employment and shifting my perspective about work. I think that there were also instances where I stayed too long in a job and put too much emphasis on shifting my perspective. But my strategy was positive thinking rather than mindfulness of what I was experiencing. I did learn a lot about the benefits of seeing the positive in situations. However, I was not doing this in the context of also being mindful of how I was experiencing stressful work and the impact it was having on me. When I look back, I think that my strategy was focused too much on my intellectual ability to shift and not a mindful shift which blunted my intuition about stressful work situations. This lack of balance also hampered my ability to respond to situations and left me stuck in reaction when stressful events occurred. What I know works for me is working for an employer who values equity, justice, with a commitment to helping other people. I also know that I need to work with people who are committed to supporting the team and helping others to succeed. I still experience stressful situations, but I am trying to tap into my intuition through mindfulness to shift my perspective about what is occurring. If the environment includes working with people who are equitable, just, and passionate about teamwork and helping others, then I know that my focus needs to be shifting my perspective in stressful situations. If these values do not exist where I work, then I know that I must move on and find other work. As I read this, it sounds like I have it all worked out, but this is still all a work in progress. Thanks for listening. Kind Regards, Gene

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