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  1. Jo, in this era of instant gratification I suspect many of your clients simply are too eager, too impatient. In the Buddhist map, even piti gives way to a subtler and more serene pleasure sukha that pervades the entire body. The process is one of settling and relinquishing that basically happens naturally. Sukha in turn gives way too an even cooler settledness and bliss in equanimity. It is part of “peeling the layers of the onion,” a metaphor often used to describe meditation. Seeking and trying too hard to make this process happen just gets in the way. As you let attention simply settle, abide with present-moment experience, and transition into a spacious awareness of the whole body, it is as though you naturally tire of successive stages of agitation, abandon them, and settle more deeply. It just takes time, showing up again and again for formal meditation practice in a safe setting with interest, kindness, and patience. While it isn’t always pretty and sublime, you learn no time practicing is wasted. That is one of the biggest lessons of mindfulness, right? It is simply a losing game to oppose the way things are. If we want our actions to have positive effects, it helps if we are grounded in how things are, accept how things are. That’s where we have to start time and again. When we stop fighting it, we tend to find some peace and joy in the acceptance, certainly relief. Well, that’s my take anyway.
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  2. Hello, I've heard of ASMR and a lot of my clients asked about it. I'm all for it- if it works for you. I think a lot of my clients were disappointed because they weren't able to experience the sensation. From my understanding, some people are able to, and some people can't. Maybe you're right David, and it takes a long practice of meditation to be able to experience the sensation. I figure it's maybe a better idea not to have expectations, because often that leads to disappointment. It's great to be aware of it, so I appreciate your bringing it up Sleepy Sarah!
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  3. Very interesting post about ASMR. I was not familiar with it, but it sounds very similar to the concept of piti in Buddhist meditation. Here is one brief explanation of it from Sutta Central: Pīti is a sense of joy or uplift that occurs during the course of meditation. It is best understood as an emotional response to the pleasure experienced in meditation. It may have physical manifestations, such as goosebumps or hair-raising, but is primarily a psychological quality. Since it is a subtle excitement or thrill in response to pleasure, it is moderated by passaddhi [tranquility], and drops away in the deeper states of samādhi [often translated as "concentration" but it might better be translated as "synchrony" or "settled harmony"].... In modernity, pīti may be related to the psychological phenomena known as frisson or A.S.M.R.,1and moreover, in a case study, researchers have reported strong dopamine reward system activations in the brain of a long-term Buddhist practitioner during meditation.2 I find slow body sweeping and then settling on the sensations of the breath, similar to what yogawithpriyanka referenced, to be very conducive to developing piti and samadhi. It took many months of practice before I experienced piti. But, not everyone will find initially placing attention to bodily sensations rewarding. This was discussed in the topic covering the book Trauma-Sesnitive Mindfulness. I recall Sean very recently sent out an email about a package he put together to help with sleep. Here is a link to the website: https://mindfulnessexercises.com/tranquil-meditation-sleep-music/?utm_source=ActiveCampaign&utm_medium=email&utm_content=Tranquil+Meditation+Sleep+Music&utm_campaign=2020_03_10_Tranquil+Meditation+Sleep+Music I myself have not checked it out yet. Best wishes.
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  4. @DavidYes, I use this a lot. Even when I need to relax through a painful procedure at the dentist. But yes sleeping this is very helpful. I still like the sound of rain water, dripping and down pouring.
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  5. My routine is to take attention into the body and then do a Loving Kindness meditation, seems to send me peacefully into sleep
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  6. I use music in my Qigong practice and meditation I use different types of sounds. To sleep I take deep breaths and stretch. Legs, arms and back are the most tense and think of nothing. I sleep right away. I get my nights and days a bit mixed up but I do sleep 6-10 hours a day. I used to take medicine. I could barely crawl to bed they wiped me out. That was so I could sleep as everyone else. I decided last year that it was time to get off the pills and just make sure I sleep when ready to sleep. I am more productive doing things my own way, according to how my body naturally is regulated.
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  7. If you are like me and have one of those "curious minds," this book will give you an overwhelming amount of answers to important questions about sleep in addition to tips. It's the first sleep book by a leading scientific expert--Matthew Walker, PhD, preeminent neuroscientist, sleep expert, former professor of psychiatry at Harvard University and Director of UC Berkeley's Sleep and Neuroimaging Lab. Why We Sleep is a must-read for anyone who is serious about getting a good night's sleep.
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  8. Subscribed to the CALM app. Has amongst others the binaural music by Moby. CALM has been an absolute boon. And by the way CALM stands for Campaign Against Living Miserably.
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  9. I use deep sleep binaural beats or guided meditation to fall a sleep that helps me
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  10. Lavender oil is a staple for me as well. Besides the usual uses, I also add it to my evening skincare routine (body moisturizers & hair oils - also really great for itchy winter nights skin). I'm enveloped in the smell by bedtime. I started practicing an evening qigong routine that I'm really enjoying. I completely notice the difference in how long it takes me to fall asleep, or how often I wake up during the night, when/if I skip evenings.
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    • Thank you for sharing this very thoughtful reflection, Daniel. Your care and capacity for honest reflection are always evidenced in your posts. This is one of many important and polarizing discussions of the times we are living in and I think it is so beautiful that you are taking time to explore your inner workings. We need more of this across this board. It's also a great example of softening as opposed to abandoning. Thank you again for sharing 🙂
    • Hi Gillian, I think making space around the views of others, with a softening of our “usual” thoughts and reactions is an excellent strategy,  I recently was in a conversation where a heterosexual couple was showing acceptance that  drag queens be permitted to read stories at public libraries dressed in the costume of the female characters in the book they read to young children. The couple I am referencing have no children. I listened and reflected . I must say nothing has challenged my views so directly as this situation did. Oftentimes the children at story time are under 5 years of age. From my background in child protection and doing therapy with child abuse victims Every red flag in the world arose in me! I was forced internally to evaluate every single reason they arose . I simply said that if I were not aware of multiple factors relating to a particular drag queen as a person or without exploring more about the impact of a drag queen in costume on a child in my care, I would not attend such an event. Since then I have continued to evaluate the red flags and what the reasons are for having them. In my heart I can  more deeply understand that enacting the female role in a children’s book could feel wonderful  to the drag queen. That, so far, is the most softening space I have been able to develop. I am glad I made it that far. I will continue to look at the issue deeply and I am glad for the opportunity I have to consider all sides. Daniel
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    • For those needing a mini retreat, you might like this guided meditation I led called 'Retreat Within'. It's so helpful to remember that we can retreat even through single practices - even for just a moment.   
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